New to this, so Hi, thanks for reading and for any suggestions... I feel really up against a brick wall atm..
Im in my late 50's, divorced over 10 years now. Met a man online, seemed a nice chap, his wife had passed away 3 years before we met.
There are still a large number of photos of her and them in his house. Which has been difficult to cope with too, he knows this but has obviously not felt in a place to take them down.
Over the last couple of years together it has become obvious we are very different in what we want from life and I told him so recently, in a kind way.
He suffers with depression and anxiety but won't try anything to help himself despite all my suggestions, It is very hard to see these things stopping him from living a full life. Along with this his negativity was becoming unbearable and there felt very little happiness together.
We had talked about living together and he was pinning his hopes on this, but I told him I couldnt continue with the relationship.
He took it very badly, said he didn't want to be here anymore etc. Says he's in love with me and will do anything to be together.
I was doing ok, not feeling so great about hurting him, but ok.
I then stupidly agreed to talk with him last night and he persuaded me back - and he will get help with his MH.
After a terrible night I feel I have totally let myself down by letting him in again, as well as led him to feel ok again.
All my friends and family said we are too different to be together too and I feel I have let them all down - they have listened to me with all this for weeks now.
I just don't know what to do, any thoughts would be appreciated thanks.
I am not in a good place this morning.