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Is my friend being love bombed? I dont want to influence her decisions but I can see so many signs of red flags

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Luckylola732 · 14/10/2024 18:16

So my friend recently told me that she had a brief fling for a few months with this guy, and she ended up getting pregnant and deciding not to keep the baby as she didn’t want anything serious as she was going back to uni.

When she told the guy this, he immediately started saying how he was so in love with her and how he had always been in love with her and really loved her. He also started saying that he would buy a bigger house for her and him to move into so they could be together with the baby.

She came back from uni after this and he was still constantly saying the same stuff, however she jas noticed that whenever she goes into the pub he works at with some of our mutal friends he never speaks to her when she is there, this seemed wild to me and a few others that he was saying he was so in love with her yet barely speaks to her in a work setting. When he asked about this, he said it was because he didn’t want it to be awkward with one of his colleagues, who she had been seeing a few years ago, as apparently her ex had said he was still in love with her. Even weirder her ex had told this guy that he was still in love with her.

So he just doesn’t speak much to her when she is in, i thought this was strange as surely if you like someone you’d want to speak to them and its not like her ex knows they’ve been seeing each other as they kept it pretty quiet, and just talking to someone
Who is a mutual friend of theirs wouldn’t be weird.

This whole situation throws off major red flags to me and i wanted to see what anyones thoughts on this are

OP posts:
BananaSpanner · 14/10/2024 18:18

Is she still pregnant?

Luckylola732 · 14/10/2024 18:19

No she isn’t she decided to have an abortionp

OP posts:
vincettenoir · 14/10/2024 18:38

I don’t think it’s that odd that he’s not being super-affectionate when she comes into his work. I don’t think I’d be all over my dh if he came into my work either. It’s just not the right setting.

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