My friend tried to coax my pregnancy out of me before I was ready to announce. I am upset about this. Am I overreacting?

[AmberPoet]

The other day I announced my pregnancy to my friend. The 1st thing she said was "I knew it". I had a feeling she did know it because she wouldn't leave me alone before I went away on holiday asking me out for a drink and food and just mithering me asking if "everything was going okay". She outright admitted that she knew I could be pregnant so that's why she mithered me. She wanted me to tell her before I was ready to announce.

I'm upset by this, because if I suspected someone was pregnant, I would appreciate that sometimes people want to wait until they have had their scan/ are ready to announce and would give them space.

The reasons for not telling her: 1. I wanted to wait for the 12 week scan to get all info and make sure baby is okay

1. She does have a tendency to blab.

I am concerned that this has damaged the friendship for me. But am I overreacting?

She sounds bloody annoying. I know people like this and they are a pain. You don't have to be friends with her. Free yourself

Yes, you’re overreacting. She was mildly nosy, but held back from actually asking outright. But you don’t sound all that keen on her, so maybe it’s not that important either way?

Presumably you said what you felt and that her behaviour had annoyed her after she said she’d known you were pregnant? Or you said nothing and are now simmering with unexpressed feelings?

Distance yourself from her. She sounds like an irritating pain in the hole.

No I don't think you are over reacting. I'd be the same if I thought someone was pregnant, I'd wait until they were ready to announce it. Not try and find ways to make them tell me , it's annoying and nosey.

Overreacting. Yes it's a bit annoying but it also always feels rather silly when you know someone's pregnant, they know you know, you know they know you know but everyone has to play along with the game and fake surprise a few weeks later.

We are all different. If you don't want to accept her for who she is, don't.

She was a bit irritating but then you are friends and she knew something was up but you weren’t confiding.

She should have observed that boundary, but you do seem very sensitive to it

(Prepare yourself: people say and do SO MANY irritating things when you are pregnant and have a newborn, and all of it seems even more irritating because you are developing your fierce maternal instincts, and are hormonal and emotionally heightened. LOL: how irritating was that observation ? 😉)

Scatty? Id say.

Yes.

This sums it up perfectly! A friend who always has a glass of wine when you're out together is suddenly drinking club soda, etc. But your friend should have let you announce it when you were ready and not been so persistently nosy (obviously).

Personally I wouldn't allow a minor annoyance to damage a friendship that I valued.

Eh, sometimes it’s really obvious even if you try to make it not so; and it’s a strange game to play to pretend you haven’t noticed. Perhaps she felt that you were good enough friends that she could hint; and you could say if you wanted. She didn’t ask you outright, so you didn’t get put on the spot or have to lie.

I think it’s an overreaction.