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How to get used to being unloved

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Sofabythesea · 14/10/2024 02:09

Just that really. I'm increasingly feeling unloved and invisible. I have a wonderful DD who is my everything and my only shining light, plus our rescue dog. I only hold it together for DD.

I've been separated for three years. I quietly had a mental breakdown and didn't resolve any of our issues and ended up moving out with DD. ExH didn't want to discuss anything and gave the silent treatment. Now I don't know what I was thinking to leave my marriage but he let us go. We co-parent OK and DD is thriving but it's as if we were never married.

I have a very toxic family of origin with a narc DM. Estranged siblings and all relatives are NC due to my DM. DF is the only one who checks in on me and my DD. I sometimes wish I could turn to an auntie or cousins.

I have some acquaintances but no real friends to turn to. Tried to make friends but never fit in. No interest in a relationship ever again.

I guess I should be happy my life is peaceful it's just me, DD and the dog at home. But I feel lonely and unloved and miss the best parts of my marriage.

OP posts:
kiwiane · 14/10/2024 05:04

It sounds like you were looking for a kind of peace when you were suffering and you’ve found it by leaving your DH and not having other relationships.
It is hard to feel so alone; things can change but I would see if you can get some therapy or counselling as you feel impacted by your family situation. Once you’re ready then I would try online dating.
Can you build in any activities for you each week - something you’ll enjoy - maybe when your ex has your daughter.

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