Am I doing the right thing ?

[HollyJenni]

I have posted on here many times in the past.
I finally took the plunge 2 weeks ago and left my partner of 12 years.

last year he cheated on me with a family friend and I should have left then.
I went on a night out and he was messaging me saying my friend was fit and he wouldn’t blame me for sleeping with her.

Ive moved into my parents and sharing the house when he works away.
He is very insistent that he wants me back etc and that I’m ruining the family and that I’m not making the right choice etc

It’s so hard because I know I’m making the right choice.

does anyone have any hope or advice ?
thanks in advance

I wrote a list on my phone of all the shit my exhusband had done and any time I felt myself wavering I just looked back at the list. I found it helped a lot.

This is a really good idea.
What did you do to cope after the break up ?

My advice is move on, be polite but firm
Ove done it, twice, and couldn’t be happier now. It is hard but there’s better out there than someone who doesn’t respect you.

Goid luck x

To be honest I mostly felt relief. If you keep contact to a minimum it should be easier to cope with.

Don’t let him say you are ruining the family, that is all on him for cheating.

My ex used to say I’d broken up the family and I would reply every time “because of your behaviour”. He soon stopped saying it.

You are definitely doing the right thing I could never look at someone the same after such betrayal. I’d block him on everything then just unblock to text if you need to communicate then tell him you will be blocked again. It saves your sanity and being hoodwinked with their poor excuses.