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Called me needy

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Graphista · 11/10/2024 19:53

Chap I been seeing for 6/7 months been going so well until now, we talk and text a lot every day been like that from the start mostly driven by him. Then today he hasn't been wanting to chat. Hasn't given a specific reason. I was on my way somewhere to see friends this evening and after him saying earlier he didn't feel like either of us really talkative today, but I asked if we could have a chat as I walked there. Mainly as not the most pleasant walk in a rough part of town and I'm alone, he called but then called me needy. He's never been like this with me before

To be honest he's been a bit off all week and it's not like him. It is making me feel insecure if I'm honest as it's so out of character.

What do I do? Please be gentle as I am feeling a bit fragile on this.

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BigDecisionWorthIt · 12/10/2024 12:23

Graphista · 11/10/2024 20:40

He's going away soon for work (oil industry) only a few months but still it's gonna be hard, I'm wondering if he's being more distant as he knows we won't be seeing each other for a while? though he was trying to reassure me on this earlier in week. Dreading it if I'm honest.

I think this is pretty much the crux of the issue.
You said in your original post you talk/text a lot throughout the day/everyday.

I'm guessing this work means less time talking/texting as well? Is there going to be a time difference to contend with?

It kinda feels like he is trying to condition himself to cope with less comms.

But the needy comment is a uncalled for. If anything be needs to be open with his feelings and plan how a tricky time can be made easier and less stressful for the both of you.

Graphista · 12/10/2024 23:53

No time difference but he won't be able to chat through the day as he can now. He will be working in such a way he can't safely be on his phone except when off shift.

We had a talk today and he said he's also stressed about going away and has a ton of stuff to sort before he goes.

I don't know what to think

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