Need some positivity

[Chickadoo]

I'm in a relationship with a lovely man. But also have ALOT of trust issues from previous relationships and my upbringing. I also really enjoy reading MN. Although I am thinking about deleting it as its quite triggering. I seem to be constantly reading on here about how awful people's partner are - how they've secretly been cheating - how they all seem to be porn addicts etc etc.

I don't think these things of my partner necessarily, we've had multiple discussions on the subjects. However, I do find it so hard to trust him - cheating and porn just seems to be such a common thing.

I guess what I'd like to read is some positivity! About good devoted partners/ men. Before I end up leaving MN 😂

People don't really need to come to 'Relationships' when things are good. They only come on when it's bad or concerning.

It's going to give a skewed picture. 🙂 So you gotta think of it more like a problem page than anything, imo.

There's not a lot to say when it's good that isn't going to come off a bit smug if the board's mostly about problems. Like if you were on a debt board and started talking about your great income. 😂

Of course there are decent partners and good men.

Just remind yourself that people tend to post when they are seeking help and advice. And on here the most common issue is usually about bad behaviour from men!
Realistically you are not going to see many posts extolling the virtues of peoples partners.
So best you either don't read, or post some positive stories of your own instead.

I think you need to focus on having discussions with your partner about how you feel.

Mumsnet is full of relationships that don't go as well as expected. You've said it's triggering. Never read it again and enjoy life with your man.

Enjoy your relationship, for the love of everything holy, delete Mumsnet! Go with the flow.