Odd behaviour or attempt at make up

[Leah1988123]

So my partner and I had a huge row last night to the point he left and slept in the car we textd a little but to cut a long story short the row was him feeling. Jealous over a particular person who had messaged me who I had previously had an encounter with many years ago and he became a huge successful fitness model my parter I hadn’t previously discussed with my parter any previous encounter with this made so when he ask I was honest. SO was immediately threatened and feeling inadequate anyway after bickering all night he came in and tried to have sex with me, after such a draining night I tried but stopped before intercourse and just said sorry heads not init he pulled back jumped on a different sofa and went straight to sleep not as much as a word.
this is the bizar part for me- this morning he was laying next to me in bed and I could hear him mumbling to me you fucking cunt you fucking cunt but he thought I was asleep! Whilst I remain asleep but vaguely listening observing his behaviour he then grabs my arse and again instigates sex I went absolutely ballistic and have never felt so cheap in all my life he then said some frog story comments to me which wasn’t very nice such as you slept with him vile so and so won’t repeat! Why on earth is he trying to have sex with me during his blaten frustration is this some type of kink, abuse, or do some men resort to sex to release tension what is going on here…please don’t say make up sex because as much as I would preferred that option there has been no resolution or he hasn’t rationalised he is feeling jealous and being silly feeling bad he is genuinely sat there angry about it and trying to grab me for sex.

He's a vile rapey bastard who you really don't need in your life.

Take the trash out before it stinks out your whole life.

This is sadly a common trait in some insecure men. And it’s bizarre. They revel in their own conquests but HATE the idea of their partner ever having sex with anyone before them. He is deeply insecure and his frail male ego can’t handle the fact he is competing (in his mind) with a fitness model who he perceives is above him in physical terms.

The man isn’t there for him to beat up and vent at so he is aiming his anger, frustration and inadequacy at you.

Trying to have sex with you is his way of ‘reclaiming’ you and taking ownership of you. He’s pathetic.

Yeah he’s f**ked up. If I were you I’d get rid of him before his behaviour escalates. You don’t need a man who would sexually assault you in your life. And that’s what this is because he believed you were asleep and had no consent. Not to mention the insane jealousy. Controlling behaviour. He thinks it’s ok to call you names because you had a sexual history before he existed in your life. As PP said, he’s vile and rapey. I hope you don’t have any children around this man.

@Sceptical123 I don’t understand it at all! I’m usually able to forgive thing can understand I’m a bit out of my co fort come here I mean he didn’t for fully push himself on me and immediately stopped when I displayed no interest but the the motive is crazy he was so angry and in a poor headspace this morning sitting there venting to himself about me or the situation he though I was asleep he then rolls over and grabs my arse and instigates sex in a very bold way type of way! Like I don’t feel there is a blaten abusing issue here because nothing escalated beyond my wants. But it is a red flag for me isit possible to love somebody feel irrational emotions so deeply and then want sex of the back end of those emotions like surely he cannot love me! I know men and women are different, but if I’m in a bad headspace the last thing on my mind is sex

He is an absolutely disgusting pig of a man who tried to sexually assault you in anger.
If you have an ounce of sence you will get him out of your home and tell him you are going to report his attempt to sexually assault you.

He is utterly vile.

Isn't not loving sex OP.

It's violent SUBJUGATION.

You are a Thing, a possession.

To do whatever he wants with, your feelings and needs are irrelevant. He doesn't care.

It couldn't be clearer.

He needs to go .

“this morning he was laying next to me in bed and I could hear him mumbling to me you fucking cunt you fucking cunt but he thought I was asleep! Whilst I remain asleep but vaguely listening observing his behaviour he then grabs my arse and again instigates sex”

So, he called you a fucking cunt multiple times, believed you were unconscious and despite being unconscious he physically grabbed you sexually and tried to have sex with you whilst he believed you were unconscious. That is not consent. Imagine if this was your friend/sister/daughter telling you this. It doesn’t matter if he stopped when you said no. He still touched you sexually and attempted to penetrate you whilst you were unconscious. What happens the next time he doesn’t stop when you say no? He had no consent to touch you. This was not a loving act. It was that of a man who thinks he has rights to your body whether you consent to it or not. Don’t wait for his behaviour to escalate. Get away from him and end this, “relationship”.