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He told me he loved me when we were absolutely wrecked

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Silverlavender · 10/10/2024 21:42

For context I'm 40 , man im seeing is also 40. Weve both been married divorced. Both said we didnt think we would ever meet anyone like each other.
I've been seeing him for 9 months, and he told me he loved me last weekend.
We had both been drinking a lot . I actually felt he was going to say it to me a couple of months ago but held back, there was a moment between us.
So I am actually so cross with myself that I dont remember what else was said in that moment as we were both so bladdered. I remember us walking hand in hand up the road to get a taxi, he said I love you , I stopped and cant remember my reply 😖🤨🤔 I'm pretty sure it would have been I love you too... as I do love him. So frustrating I dont remember that part. I then remember him saying I have wanted to say it to you for a while now but didnt want to scare you off ( I had told him a bout a man I dated years ago that came on too strong and he had remembered the story and it made him cautious) we then talked a bit , I think we hugged and kissed in the middle of the street ?😊😂 taxi beeped at us to say it had arrived 🤣 all very romantic haha. I think he said I just wish I could see you more ... not sure if I dreamt that. Anyway the thing is , i haven't seen him since sunday morning. I will see him tomorrow evening. My annoying brain is in over drive wondering whether to bring it up or leave it as I really would prefer us to both say it sober . I'm a bit gutted it was said drunk as he is so special to me and treats me better than anyone ever has. I dont want to offend him by telling him I dont remember if I told him I loved him back, I also want to ask what else was said.
I just feel like did he mean it as he was drunk.
What would you do in my situation? Bring it up or just see what happens?
Thanks in advance for any replies.

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Fairslice · 10/10/2024 21:44

I'm feeling a bit judgy about you both being so drunk you can't remember what you said, but I wouldn't bring it up and just hope he says it when sober.

Silverlavender · 10/10/2024 21:45

Fairslice · 10/10/2024 21:44

I'm feeling a bit judgy about you both being so drunk you can't remember what you said, but I wouldn't bring it up and just hope he says it when sober.

It was my birthday we had been out for birthday drinks with friends and went a bit ott. Not sure why so judgy... also I have no idea if he remembers or not?

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Zephyry · 10/10/2024 21:48

Harsh first reply! Id just wait and see rather than bringing it up to be honest. He might prefer to say it again in a not drunk state so it is done in a better way if that makes sense?!

ZaraSpellman · 10/10/2024 21:50

Wait till it happens again but no harm in you saying it

Silverlavender · 10/10/2024 21:50

Zephyry · 10/10/2024 21:48

Harsh first reply! Id just wait and see rather than bringing it up to be honest. He might prefer to say it again in a not drunk state so it is done in a better way if that makes sense?!

Thank you for this, this is what I am leaning towards not bringing it up and just enjoy our evening and see what happens. My sensible part of my brain thinks that but the other side is being a bit neurotic about it , I may be due on come to think about it ?🤔😂

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pictoosh · 10/10/2024 21:56

Let it slide as a nice moment. If he meant it (and I'm sure he did) he'll say it again.

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