Hello,
I am a 46 year old woman. My husband is in his late 40s as well. We have been married for 18 years now.
In the last 4 years, we have had no sex. The years leading upto that, we would be intimate just once or twice a year.
We share common interests, we laugh and talk. We do not handle difficult conversations like this well, though. I have tried to bring this up time and again with my husband, but he is never willing to talk about it and I do not want any unpleasantness, so I let it go.
I used to want to be more intimate before and would feel frustrated at his lack of initiative and interest.
He is a lovely person. An absolute gentleman. He is soft spoken and always puts his family first. He will remember things and buy them for me. I know he loves me deeply. He is a great dad and quietly commands respect.
I do not really crave for sexual intimacy anymore.
But I seem to find myself wanting to know if this is an ok state to be in? Are there others like me whose husbands aren't interested in sex anymore?
I have confided in my siblings and they were aghast when I told them. A close friend of mine who is my age too was very shocked and said the state of our marriage will decline.
I know I shouldn't go by what others say and go by what I know of our marriage. But time and again I feel that I will only be reassured if I know there are others like me who are finally ok to give up on sex and feel ok knowing their husband is basically a good human being, and that should be ok for a good lasting marriage.
Please let me know if there are others there like me?