Does anyone feel like this?

[Brokenm]

Mid thirties, been with DH since teens, 2 kids. Feel constantly irritated by them all, feel like running away and living on my own. Really dislike DH. Is this a me problem and Is this normal from time to time? Will it pass or should I leave.

I don’t know whether it will pass or not. I certainly felt like this when life was very stressful for us, and things changed for the better when life became easier for us. That may or may not be relevant to you, but your post spoke to me because I certainly felt like what you describe.

What can you do for yourself? Do you have work that is satisfying for you? Do you have things that you do with friends or on your own that make you happy? Are you someone who needs more time alone than you are getting? When and how do you get to focus on yourself and what you want? Do you have things that you do with DH and the kids either together or individually that help you get on and reminds you what you like about them? Are there specific things you would be able to change in your family routine that are driving you crazy? Are you doing an unfair share?

Can you get some more alone time? Being with anyone all the time for so long drives most people crazy sometimes so respite is needed.

Schedule yourself in some time away on a regular basis for a couple of months, and see if it improves things.

Sorry to hear you have this feeling.
Familiarity breeds contempt they say.

Try find yourself some away time or find something to do that takes you away then brings you back when you have self energised.

It's important to look after yourself and mental health too.Have something you can do away to enable you to miss them.

Hope all gets better ❤️

You’re overwhelmed op. Can you take a few days to yourself? Its hard to know if your feelings will last but if you can get away, you might be able to see the wood from the trees.

Yep totally get you. Sometimes I think about changing jobs so that I'd work away from home regularly.

Quite sick of them all. Feel claustrophobic as fuck.

I don't think it's weird to feel this, the trick is understanding why or what you are really feeling, so that you can figure out a solution.

eg are you depressed or have PND in which case it might be that you need a plan for that, which may include medication.

Are you irritated and wantin to get out because you have found yourself in a situation where your life revolves entirely around your family and you've lost sight of yourself? In which case, finding a way to carve out more time for yourself and to do the things you love, without the family, is probably the answer.

Is the problem that actually, your DH is a bit of a twat so you're finding it hard because perhaps you're doing all the childcare, all the mental load etc and he's not really a partner but more like a third child. In which case you have to see if you can get him to step up and take on more.

Is the problem that you're bored and you need to do something different because even if you DO have time for yourself, it's not time you enjoy anymore? do you need to explore alterantive options?

Are you just tired? Exhausted from the relentlessness of it all. Would a weekend away help.

It could be any of these, or any one of a 1000 other issues. I would strongly recommend you think about what is really behind your feelings, and then address the issue accordingly.

This struck a chord with me too OP, and all of the PP are giving good advice/useful questions to ask. I need to work this out too.

It is all just so relentless.

I am bored, overwhelmed, frustrated by the amount of mental load I carry, disappointed in my careen, disappointed in my DP’s career, juggling admin/significant medical stuff, disappointed by the lack of support/interest/warmth from family members, and feel drained and exhausted most of the time.

I long to do a Shirley Valentine...

This is me when I’ve not had any time to myself. I am always a much nicer/happier person when I get a break.