Boyfriend continues to keep mentioning ex wife and old life

[TheCoolOP]

I have been dating this guy for about 7 months, he is the most sweetest man and we clicked from day one but he has always had a habit of mentioning his ex or past life aka the things he owned with her. I don't think I can take much more of it, it's draining and making me feel like shit.

I communicated all this to him, that I don't want to hear about her and it upsets me. He said that it's healthy to talk about our past relationships. He still continues every now and then to mention his ex even after me saying it upsets me.

For me personally I don't want to talk about my ex's. They are my past, I have no desire to revisit it. I don't know if I'm in the wrong, being insecure, unreasonable etc. Maybe it’s me who is odd for not talking about my ex’s. I’m just lost on what to do or how to handle the situation because I’ve communicated multiple times to him now over it.

Anyone been in a similar situation, that could offer some insight.

tia x

I personally think it's a lack of thought and tact. You know he was married to Joan. Presumably you accept their life together. But you don't need her brought regularly into your present conversation unless for substantive reason. What does it add? I don't think it's necessary to edit out any mention ever but youre not his sounding board and she isn't part of your current life. He should have moved on. If he needs to speak about his ex, a newish partner isn't really the appropriate person to keep name dropping Joan onto. There is a balance as with all things and it sounds like he is tipping it and needs to respect you a bit more. Or make the decision this is not the man for you.