Name change for this but my boyfriend of 2 years let's call him James. We don't live together officially but he spends a lot of time at my house. On the face of things we get on a great.
Anyway a random woman has viewed my IG stories so I messaged her asking if I knew her and her response was 'no, just been nosey! James keeps messaging me and I was trying to work out if you had split up or if he was still a d*'
So I've asked James and he's denied it, said she's jealous ex.
I messaged her back and this lady has then forwarded me these messages which are off him. The first time it was late, I assume he was drunk and he was asking how she was, she didn't reply. The next time she responded and he asked to meet her the next day, she didn't respond again. He's messaged her a further 2 times - both times he's deleted the messages so not sure what they said and she said they were deleted before she saw them too. This is on what's app so you can see if someone has deleted a message.
I'm sure they've all been sent when he's drunk.
I've spoken to him again and said I've seen the messages and he has admitted messaging her drunk but doesn't know why. Not interested in seeing her etc.
I've asked how he knows here and he said he dated her for a few months around 5 years ago and then again for a few months shortly before we got together which incidentally she is saying there is a cross over. He's saying it didn't work out as she lived too far away (about 30 minute drive).
I'm so angry and hurt by his actions. Is there any excuse for this?
For context this is a man in his early 40's with 2 kids! Do they ever grow up?