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whatsagirltodoo · 07/10/2024 14:05

Okay, ladies, I think I'm about to throw in the towel with dating apps. I've swiped, matched, chatted, and been ghosted more times than I can count. It's like a never-ending game of "hot or not" with a twist: I'm always the "not."

I've tried the classics, the niche ones, and everything in between. But it's a digital dating wild west out there, and I'm starting to feel like a lone ranger.

Have any of you found a dating app that actually works? Or do I just stop trying...

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aCatCalledFawkes · 07/10/2024 14:18

Facebook dating has worked for me and another friend. I think you can see mutual friends which gives you some idea as to they are friends with.
Other than that it's a long game and I used to dip in and out of it the whole time.

sorrynotathome · 07/10/2024 14:20

Try the Burned Haystack Dating Method (FB & Insta). It will help you get rid of all the shit so you can ID genuine possibles.

Redhead300 · 07/10/2024 14:34

Yes! I've given up with the online stuff too. It's all a game of numbers really. Think about it... if back our day, when you actually walked in a bar that was full of people, you'd be surrounded by people and would know if you were interested in any of them straight away. This online stuff takes you into full blown conversations before you even work that out. It's exhausting. Face to face is much quicker.

I agreed with another post about Facebook dating. I've had some success from there, more than the other sites, but still nothing meaningful. Now I just go to the places I love and keep my eyes peeled. My theory is that well both have a common interest if we're in the same place, and the chemistry will lead us to develop something from there if that's what's meant to be. Be confident in yourself and open to meeting to new people and the rest should take care of itself.

Good luck

ThatPinkEagle · 07/10/2024 16:46

Could not agree more. I can't seem to find anyone I genuinely like on dating apps... I read this article over the weekend and it sums me up completely: https://www.stylist.co.uk/relationships/dating-love/carouselling-dating-trend/927756

I ended up downloading the app to test it out, so I'm hoping this is my last dating app download for life... looks like you've got to wait to test it out though, but I literally downloaded every other dating app, and I'm hopeful it'll be worth the wait!

Carouselling: the dating trend experts say is fuelling anxiety amongst single people

The talking stage on dating apps only seems to be getting longer and it’s, unsurprisingly, causing stress.

https://www.stylist.co.uk/relationships/dating-love/carouselling-dating-trend/927756

whatsagirltodoo · 07/10/2024 18:50

ThatPinkEagle · 07/10/2024 16:46

Could not agree more. I can't seem to find anyone I genuinely like on dating apps... I read this article over the weekend and it sums me up completely: https://www.stylist.co.uk/relationships/dating-love/carouselling-dating-trend/927756

I ended up downloading the app to test it out, so I'm hoping this is my last dating app download for life... looks like you've got to wait to test it out though, but I literally downloaded every other dating app, and I'm hopeful it'll be worth the wait!

Ooooh, I'll check FindingTheOne out! Thanks x

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chocolatelips · 07/10/2024 22:20

It's hard with dating apps.
Keep trying.
Don't sweat it out as the only initial effort is on the app.
Try eons ago when people used to meet up and find the contrary to what they expected!!
Don't give up.
I tried tinder and bumble and they worked

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