Finding out my gf is married....

[Shroomiegirl420]

Do you tell the person's wife/husband about it, or leave it alone??

I would.

Not my circus not my monkeys. Ot could put someone in danger so no I wouldn't. That's their ethics not mine.

Married and living with husband or married but estranged? If the former just dump her, you don't want to be involved in their drama whatever it is.

It's utter, utter shit to be the last person to know.

So I'm in the "tell them" camp, as I think people should be able to make decisions about their own lives and futures based on as true a picture of what is happening as is possible.

But look at your real motivation here. Is it to give that person information they really should know? Or is this some form of revenge or other game playing aimed at the GF?

Married? In which way?

Married and still living together?
Married but separated? Paperwork hasnt been done.
Married as in, on a break so technically ok but the other party think they’re working on being back together again?

Also, are we talking about a casual thing or something more serious (you mention a gf, not a partner)?

And what’s your next step?
Do you want to tell the dh so you have gf ‘all for yourself’?
Are you seeking revenge?
Do you want to make a point but still stay together?

I don’t know if I would tell to be honest because I’ve never been in that situation, however I think I would because if I were the husband I’d like to be told.

What's she saying, married but separated or still actually married and a couple?