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Feeling vulnerable and unhappy

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Alsy08 · 06/10/2024 22:14

I’ve been with my partner since 2015 and moved with my son to be with him from London to Somerset…..supposedly for a better life. I was separated from my husband at the time who is the father of our child (left a controlling and difficult relationship) since divorced but have maintained the relationship with his dad for the sake of our son ( they have a better relationship now)

The relationship that I’m in since moving to Somerset has changed significantly since going through the menopause and the difficulties with the divorce. I’ve felt so unhappy for about 4 years or more. I have lost my dad during this time, plus he’s lost his mum.

We live almost separate lives now despite trying desperately hard to maintain a relationship. My health has suffered quite considerably and I’m about to possibly lose my nursing job after 35 years. He has absolutely no understanding of how I feel. I’ve tried so much to get myself back on track. Life is so negative, even though I try so hard to make things right…..it really is never enough sadly.

I’m just reaching out as I actually want to end this relationship for the sake of myself and my son. My partner is so condescending and I’m always of course in the wrong 😑 and I’m struggling to find the best way to deal with any of this as I’m trying my hardest to make it okay…..but it really isn’t okay 😔

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MeowCatPleaseMeowBack · 06/10/2024 22:15

I'm sorry, you sound very low. Do you have family or friends to talk to?

What is the financial situation? Do you own or rent?

How old is your son now?

Alsy08 · 06/10/2024 22:34

MeowCatPleaseMeowBack · 06/10/2024 22:15

I'm sorry, you sound very low. Do you have family or friends to talk to?

What is the financial situation? Do you own or rent?

How old is your son now?

Thank you for your message. I’m just trying to navigate my next steps. I don’t want to disclose much to my family or friends at the moment in all honesty after being through a divorce previously.

I don’t want to share my financial situation on this platform. My son is 16 years old and currently in college.

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MeowCatPleaseMeowBack · 06/10/2024 22:36

Apologies for the personal finance question, it was just to gauge how tied up you are in Somerset, e.g. having to sell a house and split equity. But if your son has just started college it's probably not a good time to move back near your family anyway?

Alsy08 · 06/10/2024 23:04

MeowCatPleaseMeowBack · 06/10/2024 22:36

Apologies for the personal finance question, it was just to gauge how tied up you are in Somerset, e.g. having to sell a house and split equity. But if your son has just started college it's probably not a good time to move back near your family anyway?

Please don’t apologise, I’m just grateful for any advice at the moment. I’ve got a big family and we’re spread out…..at least 1-3 hours to get to anyone and I don’t want to put on my family.

i just want my son to feel settled before I make any plans but thank you.

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