Dating again after separation

[Applesandpears1806]

So I'm in the middle of a divorce and still living with STB Ex H,who'll move out in July time next year.
I keep talking to a really lovely guy who comes into my work(i work in a builders merchant),and would like to meet up for a coffee etc..and learn more about him.
I know this IS NOT the right time until I'm in a more settled time in life(around 9 months time)
The problem is,I might be changing jobs in the next couple of months and may not see him again. He's not on fb(I've checked) I won't see him in my new job(a nursery)
How could I let him know I like him but be transparent about my circumstances and see if he's interested in the near future?
I probably sound like a right idiot!🙆‍♀️🤦‍♀️
How have your first dating experiences been after divorce/separation gone?

Why can't you ask him out for a drink now?

I'm sure he wouldn't want to since I'm not yet divorced and still living with ex.

I've told STB EH he can't carry on with the OW(why it's over between us)until he moves out. I'd feel a bit hypocritical

…and that would be OK. Is he single?
Are you actually sure? Or just assuming?

If he would rather wait- that’s fine, it does not mean he doesn’t like you, maybe the timing isn’t right.

I didn’t date until a year after ex had moved out! I was very very nervous about it and nearly bailed on my first date- thank god I didn’t. He has proved to be really nice and an absolute gentleman!

I am sure you have your reasons but that sounds like an awfully long time to be in limbo.

This is someone I used to go to school with and has been coming into the shop for a few years,he's always seemed really chatty,and lovely but, I never thought more as I was married(although not happy for last 2 years)he would come in every few months or so,but it seems more recently.

He has been commissioned to do a piece of art,I'm so tempted to ask him to take my number and send me a picture of it once it's done. I could be transparent in the message then?bah I have no idea!🤦‍♀️

Don't overthink it, just be honest with him.

Ask for his number because you're leaving soon and you'd like to meet up for coffee in the near future. You don't have to go into your divorce etc. immediately.
Worst case he says No, and you're exactly where you are now.

You're allowed to spend time with other people while your divorce is going through, this doesn't make you a hypocrite.

Do you really think he isn't carrying in with her? He couldn't even control himself when you were together. Don't stop your life for him.