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Dating apps

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Humphreyshead · 06/10/2024 21:21

Which are the popular or better ones to try? Iā€™m newly single, 40 and not wanting to meet sleezebags šŸ™ˆ

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since1986 · 06/10/2024 21:22

If you dont want sleazebags then real life is your best bet.

Heavier · 06/10/2024 22:59

Definitely avoid plenty of fish. My friend liked Bumble as it put the woman in control as the woman sends the first message if you both like each other. I liked OK Cupid as you get to see lots of information about the person (if theyā€™d bothered to fill it all in) and you can only be message if you both like each other so less unsolicited pictures (this is a problem on plenty of fish). Iā€™ve thought of tinder as purely for one night stands but I dont think thatā€™s always the case. I paid for match for a bit and did like it but I didnā€™t have much success on it.

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Humphreyshead · 07/10/2024 06:53

since1986 · 06/10/2024 21:22

If you dont want sleazebags then real life is your best bet.

Really?! Thanks! Iā€™ve never used dating apps before. Are they that bad?

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Humphreyshead · 07/10/2024 06:53

Heavier · 06/10/2024 22:59

Definitely avoid plenty of fish. My friend liked Bumble as it put the woman in control as the woman sends the first message if you both like each other. I liked OK Cupid as you get to see lots of information about the person (if theyā€™d bothered to fill it all in) and you can only be message if you both like each other so less unsolicited pictures (this is a problem on plenty of fish). Iā€™ve thought of tinder as purely for one night stands but I dont think thatā€™s always the case. I paid for match for a bit and did like it but I didnā€™t have much success on it.

Thank you. Iā€™ll try bumble. It came up 1st in my App Store.

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Hellohah · 07/10/2024 06:55

Humphreyshead · 07/10/2024 06:53

Really?! Thanks! Iā€™ve never used dating apps before. Are they that bad?

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They are worse than you can possibly imagine I'm afraid šŸ¤¬

Heavier · 07/10/2024 07:13

Good luck, you do need your wits about you and have a bit of a thick skin. There are plenty of men on them that just want a one night stand (which is great if thatā€™s what you are looking for but I wasnā€™t) & I suspect a fair few that are married. I got some crass offers from out of nowhere which were unappreciated. If you want a relationship then I think waiting till the 3rd date to go back to one of your houses helps to weed out those that are just after one night. Iā€™ve had luck without any terrible experiences but it can take time to find someone right and I suspect it differs area by area. Iā€™m on the outskirts of a city but not London and I think thatā€™s probably easier as there is a decent pool of single men around my age. I think in London people get married later so probably separate later. People on other treads have said that men always want younger women. I have experienced that a bit but have also had quite a bit of interest from those the same age and younger than me. Iā€™m currently in my second LTR that came from a dating app.

aCatCalledFawkes · 07/10/2024 07:16

There all as bad as each other with all the same people on them! That said I met my boyfriend on Facebook dating.

LushLemonTart · 26/10/2024 14:01

Ds1 was thinking of joining one. He's 27. Not sure if he should now? I met dh on pof but got lucky.

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