Kids clothes

[micci124]

Evening all.

My husband just went mad and yelled at me for buying my son a coat from my catalogue, which he needed. He said that's he's really angry that I didn't involve him in the choice as apparently i promised him last time i would? It's just a plain black school coat. Nothing fancy. I earn my own money and contribute to the bills. I feel claustrophobic and have no financial freedom. Apparently he's very angry at me right now, but a part of me is screaming this isn't right. Do I really deserve to screamed at for it? Do I? Do I really need to run every purchase for the kids past him?

He is absolutely wrong, your son obviously needed a cost as it’s the time of your when the weather turns cold and yet. He sounds very controlling op. It’s hard to understand why as it’s not expensive as you said, and you haven’t said money is tight. Do you have your own bank account? What other aspects does he try and control? Are you too scared to treat yourself?

Because he wasn't involved in the choice. That's all. I understand for big ticket items conversion is necessary, but for a black coat!! I mean c"mon!

He's being a twat.

I hope your money goes into your own account and not one that only he has access to. If it does change it first thing in the morning and get your wages paid to you and you only.

Going forward look for a way to leave, this man is controlling.

He is def in the wrong but I think the issue lies deeper. And he is a controlling arse. You are a grown woman, a mother, you can buy your son a coat without consulting him, he’s not that important and the level of anger is so disproportionate here as you mentioned hik shouting at you.

He's angry because I broke my supposed promise to him, before buying a coat that I would consult him. It's my catalogue at the end of the day. Feel very claustrophobic. Yep proper shouting at me, saying you broke your promise. I was shocked. It's just a coat, not a new car. I just left the room and haven't spoken to him since. I'm such a bad person for ordering a coat. Honestly.

Yes he's defo in the wrong

If that's the whole story then he is an abusive cunt and you should get rid of him.

But you say catalogue - why from a catalogue? Do you have debt to the catalogue already, or have you had in the past? If my DS needed a new coat I'd just go out and buy one, or order one online and pay for it there and then (and I'm on benefits so not exactly well off). I wouldn't bother with a catalogue, they're almost never the cheapest way to buy anything.

I'm a student nurse and there has been a cock up with my student finance so was using it temporarily.

Ok, so have there been problems in the past with catalogue debt? Is that why you had an agreement not to use the catalogue without involving him?

I mean don't get me wrong he has been a dick, I'm not trying to say otherwise, but I'm wondering if there is missing context here.

No no agreement on a catalogue. All bills are up to date. It was just buying my son a coat, without his input.

I’d be interested to hear his side of it. Does buying from a catalogue mean you’re getting into debt for it, and at a silly interest rate that means it’ll end up costing way more than the actual price of the coat? Unless he’s a knob that won’t contribute his share towards the kids stuff, and if he is then you have bigger problems, then I don’t see why you wouldn’t have involved him. Not because he has to approve a black school coat because that would be weird, but couldn’t he have paid/contributed and then you could have avoided the catalogue?

As I said it's temporary until I get my student loan. Son needs a coat regardless. He knew the plan and agreed. Being married we combine all the dual income. No his and her money, but our money
He was pissed off at me, due to him not having input and a veto on the actual coat And this is what he screamed at me. The more I say it, the more ridiculous it sounds.

Husband is upset, and just told me that because he grew up.poor, he wanted to be involved as he thinks school coats are important as he haf awful ones. He is also pissed that I broke my promise to him too. I guess it's not just a coat to him. He's stormed off upstairs and says he cannot trust an utter word i say anymore..

I just wanted to buy my son a coat. I feel very confused and upset