Confused about him

[Lisa561]

I need some advice please as I’m confused about my feelings for one of my best mates.
We’ve known eachother for 7 years and he’s always made it clear how he feels about me.
Hes always been there for me , thoughtful , funny and he’s always been consistent.

We did go on a few dates but I just didn’t feel the sexual attraction. We’re still really good mates and that didn’t affect anything .

Ive been dating here and there but my track record hasn’t been great and I always end up getting hurt. After some time on my own I find my mind keeps wandering back to him and how I appreciate what a good guy he is. Everything is perfect , just last time I couldn’t find that physical attraction.

can physical attraction grow? Has anyone else been in the same situation?
I don’t want to hurt him by giving him false hope but I also don’t want to let it pass if there is something there

Well attraction can grow but if it hasn't by now then you might never feel that way about him.

Your physical attraction will grow the minute he is interested in another woman. Suddenly he will be more appealing to you, by then it will be too late, you had your chance.

I don’t want to hurt him by giving him false hope but I also don’t want to let it pass if there is something there

If you've been friends for 7 years, been out on a few dates and you still don't fancy him, maybe you just have to accept that there isn't anything there in that respect.

ZekeZeke

Maybe. But that's not a good enough reason to date someone you don't fancy!

I agree but it will most likely happen.
Someone else desiring something makes it more desirable.

If you’re not physically attracted to him after knowing him for 7 years then it’s prob never going to happen. You’re just looking at him as an option because he’s a safe bet. Not because you actually want him. And that’s not fair to him. Don’t go there. It will ruin your good friendship and then you’ll be single and a reliable, supportive, good friend down too. Don’t settle. Wait for the guy who makes your heart soar and your stomach flip.

Don’t be one of those women that ‘settles’, only to screw him over 15 years down the line.
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