Help me decide what to do!

[Boreda1985]

I recently split up with a short term partner. We'd only been together a fee months.
We ended it because I wanted more commitment than he did.

The thing is, I'm having second thoughts. I'm not sure if finishing things was the right thing to do and it's driving me mad. I can't seem to think of anything else. I need to move on.

So, I'd like to message him and ask to talk things through to see if he feels similar.
But im so scared of rejection that it's holding me back. I can't stand the thought of him saying - just leave me alone.
But, on the other hand, at lest I'd have clarity!? Or would I feel worse?

What is the answer here?

I'd say don't compromise on your needs - in the long term this might bring you heartache. Having said that many men are slow to commit.

I don't want to compromise my needs, but I have a feeling thar our 'wants' are not actually that different and I'd like to talk that through.
But I also don't want to chase him. More than anything I'm scared of the rejection.
Not sure if my heart will take it.

Best to save your sanity and leave it be , you know him better just send him a text saying what you wanted from that relationship and if he's not agree with you then you are better off separate. If he says he cannot do that then you win .

I wouldn't. If he told you he didn't want the same commitment that you did he's not likely to change. If you now suggest getting back with him you could well find yourself demoted to someone he is just seeing casually whilst he still dates others.

You said you split up because you wanted more commitment than he did. Leave it be. He doesn’t want commitment. Why are you chasing a man who’s told you he doesn’t want what you want? Move on and find someone you’re better suited to.