DH and I have split up after (almost) 10 years together, married for nearly three of those and have 2 DC's 6 and 2.5. Things weren't right for a long long time and I held it together, forgiving what some would deem unforgivable and trying to forget things he had done. To cut a very long story short, he has a drink problem and his drinking has ruined every occasion I have ever looked forward to. I was 30 in April and just after christmas my sister had organised a surprise party for me, he blurted it all out one night in January and made me feel guilty every day after for it. Christmas was really miserable and I decided something had to be done, I have tried and tried to make him happy but I had ran out of what to try next, so I started going to counselling - he wasn't interested as it was me with the problem - to try and deal with it, however, the final straw was mother's day, i bought my own card but he didn't even ask them to write it, they didn't even know it was mother's day. After a counselling session I decided to call it a day, he seemed very relieved at first and was happy to leave there and then. For the next 2 weeks I didn't see him, he didn't help with the DC's, etc. Then he went through a week of begging me to come back, then after that he hates me. He has continually let the DC's down, refusing to come and see DS1 when he was ill even though he promised to do so. He now tells me that he has someone else, and that they sat down 18 months ago and discussed getting together, he would have left me when DS2 was only 7 months old, it makes sense now why he was not bothered and why my best efforts were a waste of time, I feel so betrayed and angry. Regardless of this he has told everyone in the village we live that we have split up because I had been having an affair. I moved out at the weekend into a rented place (we own the house) just to get away from him and his constant barging into the house. He has punched a huge hold in the door in his rage and says that he will hunt down my new DP. He was screaming down the phone at me and his mum was there too. Today I find that he has left the dog on his own at the weekend and my neighbour caught me this morning to tell me that he had been barking all night, he knows how upset I was at leaving the dog behind, he doesn't seem to have any regard for anything. Even after finally getting away from him, he is determined to make me live my life in fear