Do a lot of men live in their own worlds so to speak..

[Thanksforchatting]

Unsure what to title my thread to be honest but I feel my dh lives in his own reality and doesn’t communicate well with me which leaves me feeling hurt.
i suspect he has adhd which may contribute.
example- my dad was rushed to hospital two days ago which intold
my dh about before he went away for a few days with work.
not once has he asked how he is and he has now come back from work and still hasn’t asked me.

i feel so disconnected to him as we don’t discuss things, he isn’t great at small talk and is mainly concerned with his work. He came straight home made a drink and started work again!

am i expecting too much?

“People are just people, with all sorts of varied strengths and weaknesses.”

I would agree if the op was about how people are a mixture of attributes in general but the situation isn’t about how he folds or doesn’t fold things. It’s about something that is THE HEART of their connection. Or lack of. If your dd was describing this marriage to you would you just wave her loneliness away. Would you? <shudders>

(Oh man, I don’t know why people deliberately misread and post stuff like I quoted when you can FEEL the op. I don’t know what’s gone wrong here nowadays. Mumsnet was brilliant in the 00’s. It was full of savvy posters with good hearts. The chaff got short shrift)