Friend didn’t act how I thought they would and I feel acted unkind

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I’m struggling to process this and would be grateful for some thoughts.
I don’t want to go into detail, but a friend (relatively recent friend ie last couple of years and not a close friend) has acted completely differently then I thought they would to another friend of mine- quite a few examples of unkindness - nothing major- but seemed unkind and as above basically acted completely differently to how I thought they would.
Trouble is that it’s completely changed my vier of them and I’m thinking do I even meet them for coffee or chats now when they message?
Someone that I didn’t see hugely frequently but I know they will text at some point for coffee.
At this moment, I’m thinking that I postpone or something and then see how I feel.
Thanks.

You’ve not really given us much to go on here OP.

Personally I’d still meet with her and then make up my mind or maybe find out why she acted like that, is there a particular reason she was that way?

This is such a vague post

It's up to you

I mean there's nothing for us to go on here anyway!

There isn't enough information to respond to, but I had a conversation tonight with my DD2. She is on a Masters course, and she befriended one girl, who turned out to be unpopular with many of the rest of the cohort.

In spite of exhortations to drop her friend (she can be really annoying, I know, but DD can deal with it) DD refused to do it. She then also found herself on the outside looking in.

I'm proud of her loyalty to her friend, and her refusal to give in to peer pressure. I don't know if this is the same?

Go with how you feel.

Unless you know really the history, I think you need to steer well clear of this in terms of judging your friend.

All sorts of thoughts and feelings can lead to all sorts of actions in personal relationships.

Difficult to advise on the basis of this. If you're not willing to give more details then I would just say that it's totally up to you who you spend time with. Think about what your friend offers to you, think about what these acts of unkindness were - are they indicative of something nasty/could they be a one-off/can you understand and empathise with why she's behaved this way (I generally would advocate giving someone the benefit of the doubt if they've otherwise been a good friend). And then decide whether you still want them in your life. And also where you want them in your life - I have demoted people mentally and decided to invest more effort elsewhere but that doesn't mean you need to cut her out entirely.

What?

I have a friend, not really a friend more of an acquaintance and now I’m not sure if I like them anymore. What should I do.

If you don’t really want to be friends with them anymore then just ease back out of the friendship. You say you are not close so it shouldn’t be a problem.

If you no longer want to be friends with someone don’t.

But there’s could be all sorts going on. The mutual friend could have done something that has made your friend react differently. And you have no clue about it.

You could have unrealistic expectations of the friend. Your friend could have other things going off that you don’t know about which has influenced how they are behaving.

But the bottom line is if you don’t want to meet up with them, don’t.

Do you mean this new friend is jealous of your other friends?

Has she shown you who she is and you are not sure you like her anymore? Reduce contact then, say you are busy and ramp it down.

Is this about autism?

Oh aye, for sure.

OP, if you don't like your acquaintance any more you don't have to see them again.

It just seems really similar to a thread which was focused on this so not sure if you’re the same OP?