Split up with the children's dad 4 and half years ago. Only managed to sell our house 11 months ago. I now rent. We have 2 children in primary school. I've spent the last 3 Christmas at the house we shared and we just went along with it.
I have mixed emotions as it was me who ended things and he still to this day is abit over familiar. I live in a bungalow now. Very opened planned. He just walks in and will walk straight through the house into the bedrooms etc to speak to me. I dont mind him coming in and we aren't enemies but I sometimes feel I've allowed him to be too familiar here. We do the odd day out with the kids but i find it cringe sometimes.
Anyway Christmas this year. I genuinely would rather not have dinner with him and spend the day with him. But I already know he will want that. I'm in a sort of relationship with someone else now and he won't want me choosing my ex over him all Christmas. That said he won't be here Christmas morning. I dont know what to do. I've bought the kids bits already. He's said he can pay towards. I dont want that. I want him to buy stuff for his house from him. I'm just too polite and don't know how to discourage him. I want my kids Christmas morning. I fully understand he wants them too. I think he should go to his mums or something and be with his family then maybe pick them up and have some of the afternoon with them. But I already know he will cry and get depressed.
What would you do?