Narcissistic people/personality disorders

[Hellomartinitslinda]

Can you tell from first impressions if someone has a personality disorder?

Sometimes you meet someone and everything you say is wrong or they are dismissive etc. Or they try to tell you who you are.

I think most people roughly fall into two camps , takers or givers . Beware of people being over friendly and nice , it usually means they want something from you is my experience. Expect to be on the receiving end of narcissistic rage if you say no .

Depends on the narcissist. Often the more overt, grandiose ones can seem charming. Especially if they are lovebimbing you.

But the more covert kind can be miserable, 'woe is me' fun suckers.

And if they aren't interested in charming you (eg: if they are snobs and perhaps see you as beneath them social status wise, so with little to give) they'll potentially come accross standoffish, cold, rude, critical and judgemental.

There's lots of diversity.

I'd say the underlying trait in all is selfishness. And finding yourself constantly on edge around them.

Other common things I've noticed are one-upmanship, desire to piss on your joy etc...
There's vibe about them. A cruelty even in the little things they do.

I think many people think grandiosety, pompousness and love bombing behaviour are how to spot them. But the truth is there's such a wider range.