My ex and I split 6 months ago, we have 4 children aged between 16 & 7. Tomorrow I am due to speak to Cafcass for the first time re child access. 3 of the children live with me, 14yr old son wanted to live with dad.
My concern is, my eldest daughter has raised some concerns over her dad. Since splitting he has showed little interest in The other 3 children, especially our 2 daughters. When he has wanted to see them, he has demanded that they go to his an hour before he is free and then gets angry when they don’t. She tells me on the 5 times they have seen him all they do is sit and watch tv, he does not sit with them, he sits in another room. He will then come in and out, making comments about me, how badly I have treated him ( I ended our relationship) make derogatory comments about me. He then criticises the children, saying they eat too much junk they need to eat healthy, telling my 7yr old he is unfit??
My eldest tells me he is very angry all the time, shouting swearing, acting erratically, and will fly off the handle all the time with my son who is living with him. The most worrying part is she has now told me she found “white powder” on top of the drawer unit in my ex’s bedroom and she is concerned this could be drugs?? My ex was always anti drugs, but I know some of his friends where always a bit into this thing.
i have a non molestation order against my ex due to coercive control and stalking. He has tried to emotionally manipulate the children over the last few months and has said many horrible things to them about me, including making sexual comments about me.
Don’t really know what to expect fro
posting. Just wanted some advice or a hand hold