AIBU

[alexis97]

Is it okay for your husband to masturbate himself to a photo of someone he went to school with? I've had so many issues in the past with this. He likes lots of sexual photos of this girl when I was having a horrendous pregnancy with our little boy and then Monday just gone does this. I know he's not physically cheating with her but I'm furious.

That is absolutely gross OP.

It is cheating in my opinion. He is your husband: he took marriage vows. But he is getting his sexual gratification from another woman.
Have you talked to him about this?
I would end my relationship over this because he clearly does not love or respect you and he is showing you he has feelings for/ is attracted to another woman.

WTF... He is bang out of order!

No it’s certainly not ok. I’m so sorry he’s done this.

Of course it’s not ok it’s gross.

How do you know he’s using photos of this woman to wank?

He was sending a photo to his mam and I saw it in his camera roll from when I was at work, he admitted it

🤮 gross. He has no respect for women, do you really want to be with a msn
like this?

I don't, but I love him. And I'm terrified. We have 2 children. One 8 months one 3 who has autism. I'm scared about doing it all alone.

Don't let fear get in the way of happiness. Fear is temporary, as soon as you face it it is gone. Being unhappy will stay with you as long as you avoid facing your fears. Good luck x

Oh my goodness. The spiteful version of me would come out and I would message the woman making her aware of what he was doing to her pictures.
I would be beyond devastated and it would be a see ya later for me.

No that is definitely not ok. I like to think of a few of my exes when I'm in the mood for a bit of self-love but (a) I'm single and (b) there is no visual stimulus, just my memory of being with them in the past.

You need to have a proper conversation with him about this, about why it is wrong, how it makes you feel and then a commitment from him to stop.

You need to ask yourself what’s more scary?

Being a solo parent or looking back on your life in years to come only to realise you stayed in a toxic unhealthy marriage and wasted your best years.

What a wanker.....

I find it hard to think what there is to love about a man who thinks his is normal way to behave and who disrespects you this way.

That's awful. Tbh I would leave right there and then and figure out the details after. Is there no one you can stay with, even in the short term until you work something out? You don't deserve to be disrespected like that.

This is disrespect, clear and simple. If you call him out on it and he refuses to apologise and dispose of the photos then he’s really not worth your time. Maybe ask him if he’d like his family to give their thoughts on this behaviour. Breaking up a family is scary but being with a man who has no respect for you is not good for your family either as this is just a gateway to worse disrespect 😀

Ewww OP. How can you? And how can you ask if it's OK? You know it's not.

Yuck. How disrespectful.

Seems a bit of a weird thing to do

I can't believe you even have to ask. Of course it's not ok!