Thoughts please

[Mum2threechildren]

when a person understands they can't see their partner often because his work/life balance doesn't leave much time for her and she let's him do what he needs to do without pressure or complaining and she puts his needs first despite what she wants and if she does something he doesn't like even though its not wrong she says she won't do it again even though when she asks the same in return he says no I will do what I like and she takes his word for things first time he says it even though she dont get the same back that is respect and it is something to be appreciated but he doesn't appreciate her instead he upsets her with negative words that arent true then she's the problem for being emotional and she needs to calm down like her feelings don't matter because he doesn't need the drama that he caused in the first place

I don't think that person would be my partner for much longer. Probably about another microsecond.

I would think the woman was a doormat and needed to pick her bar up off the floor.

I would think she needs to see that he isn't a partner, he's a user. She doesn't seem to understand that he doesn't love her, and so he isn't going to change and will always treat her badly. Because he can. He will treat anyone like that who lets him. If she stops being a doormat, he will leave her and find the next person with no self-respect and self-love.

People take you at your own valuation. When you put others first, you teach them to put you last.

A person who acts like this man has no respect for anyone - let alone for someone who feels so badly about themselves that they stick around when they are disrespected and shown no care.

I would think she should dump him. That would do a great deal for her self-respect.

I'd think the woman had ditched all her self respect in favour of a complete dick.

And obviously I'd hope there are no children witnessing the shit show.

^This sums the situation up nicely

I’d think the woman was avoiding facing what he was telling her loud and clear.

Bin him. He won’t change.

People take you at your own valuation. When you put others first, you teach them to put you last.

Wow I am going to pass this on to all my friends and family. Genius xxxx 🙏🙏🙏

I have the ultimate respect for you understanding that straightaway!

Thank you, but it was easy really. Relationships should be expansive. Together, two people should be more than the sum of the parts. There will always be differences, but that should be a source of strength not conflict. It should widen horizons, not narrow them.

I didn't truly understand all this until I met my wife. This was late on, perhaps because I wasn't ready for her, but she (to coin the phrase) completes me in ways I couldn't possibly define. We laugh together, cry together, experience the world around us from our own perspective and are able to still have our own uniqueness, and respect for each other'sdiffering opinions. We are two individuals, but still united.

Reading the OP's post, it is clear there is conflict and lack of respect. That was enough for me to post what I did.

I wish I could remember who told me each of those things, but I can't. Probably Natalie Lue, I read a lot of her stuff. They are genius though, and I tell myself those things often!

She should say
Fuck off you hypocrite

Sounds like you’re incompatible or he’s not really that into you.

A full stop is like oxygen. You forget how important it is until it's not there...

I think the person needs punctuation.

End the relationship.

First off, that's not a partnership.

Secondly, dump him.

Thirdly, punctuation is always appropriate, especially in this instance.

Leave.
Punctuate.