He kept waking me up

[natel]

The other day I got up at 5.20am to go to the car boot as my partner enjoys going. I went back to bed about 12.30pm midday and told him I was going for a nap. He came in 25 minutes later and woke me up to show me a project her had been working on. I fell asleep after a few minutes. Then he came back again an hour later and woke me up just for a naked cuddle, I fell asleep after 2 minutes.

We don't live together but it really annoyed me he was not respectful as I was extremely tired from the early start and needed the nap. I ended up waking up at 4.30pm which probably would not have been so late if it was not for the disturbances. He went to work for 3 hours at 5.30pm. I never have a nap. I feel I need to tell him his behaviour was disrespectful.

He saw his mother recently and woke her up to ask if she cancelled her doctors appointment. She was annoyed he woke her up. I did not know she was asleep as I was downstairs.

He has sleepless nights so should be more understanding of people.

So did you tell him?

Tell him to f--- off next time. He's just a self centered attention seeker.

He was probably excited to see you seen as you don’t live together and he was going to work at 5.30. You didn’t spend much if the day together? Unless you have a health condition I don’t know many adults that need a three hour nap to recover from an early start 5.20 is not midnight.

I did not fall asleep till nearly 1am and had a sleepless night.

He sounds selfish, I would warn him not to wake me again and I'd keep an eye on the rest of his behaviour and see if he is always selfish.

Your own fault for not simply growling at him the first time he woke you up, rather than giving nicey-nicey feedback.

We don't live together
Next time send him home. Or keep waking him up next time he's asleep.

Ask him or Tell him to leave you alone if you are napping.
If he can go away and entertain himself ir go elsewhere if he can not contain his excitment or need to wake you up.
I am sure his project can wait until you have rested.
I like a nap when woken early not because i am sickly because I am getting old, my partner knows im not worth living with if I am woken to soon.🙂

Do you have the patience to teach a grown man basic respect? I certainly don’t. Bin him.

I have sent him a message and said I don’t want that happening again as I was extremely tired and don’t appreciate keep being woken up.

Sound like hard work and a waste of a day. He was probably bored as would I be.

I think he was excited to see you and wanted to enjoy your company. You didn't really have much time together, especially as he had to go to work. How old are you that you need a nap anyway? Unless there's a back story, I think you sound a bit precious.

He does sound like a bit of a nuisance.

Absolutely this.
What he did is not normal.
It is the behaviour of a selfish twat.
Ignore this at your peril.

Sounds like you are incompatible. I couldn’t deal with a grown adult taking themselves off to bed in the middle of a day together because they’d gotten up at 5 in the morning.

He was going to work in the early evening - why didn’t you just have a chilled afternoon together and then get an early night once he’d gone to work?!

But I guess he has to decide if he can put up with that rather than trying to change you.

So OP gets four hours of sleep and she isn't allowed a nap during the day. Glad I don't live in your house.

Me too!

I'd just say lightheartedly if I ever have a nap again can you stop coming in and out and disturbing me it was so annoying

I think a text message a few days later is a bit dramatic. You should have told him there and then you don’t like being woken. Though you went back to sleep easily each time so it doesn’t sound like it was too much of a problem anyway