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Ending an affair, is there a correct way?

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NeatQuoter · 01/10/2024 14:47

Hi, I'm new to this, looking for support and help.
I have just ended an emotional affair, just ghosted/blocked him in an attempt to heal and put everything back into my marriage.
However I am in turmoil and feel guilty and rude, like I've had no closure as I was in deep.
I am tempted to unblock and explain things but would this just be weak and stupid?

OP posts:

Anuta77 · 01/10/2024 22:07

NeatQuoter · 01/10/2024 20:53

Seriously guys, I'm very grateful for your input.
My last messages to him were clearly stating how I felt, deep in regret and guilt, and I gave him the opportunity to say goodbye at which he replied 'I have no need to say bye'.
I think he was inferring that I'd get over this patch and we'd be fine. (I was always convinced I would be ok).
I didn't respond and later he asked me 'how my day was going'.
It was at this point I got angry, upset and chose not to reply and block him.
Was I unreasonable? Should I have been more clear?
I loved his attention, I really liked him as a person and he was highly intelligent, not a regular guy or so I thought.
It feels like I will have hurt him and that is playing on my mind.

The fact that he dismissed you is a red flag. He's disrespectful, so don't feel bad.

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