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Separating amicably - advice please?

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TryOnATeaCosy · 29/09/2024 22:10

DH and I have finally realised we need to move forward as co-parents rather than a married couple. It’s been coming for years and after unsuccessful counselling I’ve finally said enough. DH is gutted but understanding.

We’re looking at finances etc with a view to buy somewhere in the same town, and get an entry date before we tell DD10.

We’re living together still and no issues there other than a bit of awkwardness and strain.

Please can you tell me anything you think I need to do / be prepared for, or particularly that eased things for your DC? She’s autistic so while she’s academically smart, she struggles with routine change, and has a strong sense of injustice, so that’s an extra element to navigate! Thanks for reading.

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DustyLee123 · 30/09/2024 08:31

Are you staying in your current home with her? If so, I’d suggest that dad gradually is more absent from the home, perhaps he can have some nights elsewhere, so that it’s not unusual when he’s not there.
Are you in separate bedrooms?

TryOnATeaCosy · 30/09/2024 09:34

We’re all still in our family home. DD is used to DH and me being away for the odd work trip or weekend away so it’s not so much that as the ‘life not being exactly as she wants it to be’ situation!

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