Would you tell ur adult child their plump?

[Itsawildworld85]

I've literally had my mum on the phone just to tell me I'm plump?

So my great aunt told my nan that my mum and aunt are lovely but plump. My mum told me today. I said gosh thats irrelevant, bit weird etc.
She then rings me briefly says hello then says "btw great aunt told uncle you are plump too, so your in the plump club...id better go, i know you have work tomorrow"

I never see my great aunt ever she lives other side of the world. I don't think I would have passed that msg to my child.
Just thinking is this odd?

I wouldn't feel the need to pass that on.

I'm not sure of the context of how she feels about her weight. Either she thought it was very funny and thought you would find it funny too ("plump" is an old-fashioned word and just reminds me of puddings or fruit). Or, more likely, she felt bad (and maybe felt it was untrue and that you should have earlier said, "That's clearly not true!" about her being plump) and so is trying to transfer that feeling onto you too.

Sounds a bit spiteful tbh. And also infantile- “the girl in the year above says you’re plump, so there!!”

No one will admit to this maybe better to ask if anyone’s mum has ever told them this? And yes my mum has.

"So my great aunt told my nan that my mum and aunt are lovely but plump. My mum told me today. I said gosh thats irrelevant, bit weird etc.
She then rings me briefly says hello then says "btw great aunt told uncle you are plump too, so your in the plump club...id better go, i know you have work tomorrow""

I think what she was just trying to say was that you've been added to the "plump club" by random great aunt along with her and her sister. I would find that hilarious unless there's some massive backstory. My family are very odd and say this sort of random shit all the time. Unless your mum is generally horrible /nasty/abusive I doubt she meant it as a criticism, more as in "you are in the plump club too apparently" 🙄/we are all in this together type of thing.

We don't know your mum, so it's hard to know. But my mum would have just found the word plump funny. It's fun to say.

Plump.

I wouldn't, because my mum regularly does to me and it's contributed to my disordered eating and took a lot of work for me to get over/cope with.
I've categorically banned her from discussing my daughter's bodies in front of them but she still thinks it's OK to discuss mine.🙄 at least the cycle ends with me!

Cackled at this 😂

It sounds as if she was mentipning it as if to say 'and you as well' and had taken umbridge about everyone being in the plump club,sharing her incredulity perhaps

I like the word plump too.

Yes it's a delightful word!

I think your mum was being light hearted and found it amusing and thought she'd ring and tell you what dotty G Aunt was up to.

Nobody should ever comment on someone's weight, a fat person, such as myself, already knows. Overweight people are struggling, they aren't blind or deluded, they don't need someone to make them feel any more shit about their body

I agree. Reminds me of the little miss plump book. I think it's been changed to little miss greedy now though.

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My mum does this. Of course she is a trim size 12 aged 88... but often makes the point that I'm carrying some extra weight on my middle - I'd take 'plump' all day long... she uses the word 'tubby'...I just ignore her

I was going to say, could just be that she thought it was funny, and didn’t really think that you might not agree!

My dad once sat me down all serious to tell me I was overweight. I just sat there thinking “no shit Sherlock”.

My grandmother used to call me 'stout '....and 'hefty'....no wonder I've always have issues with weight gain!

Yes now I've calmed down.... I think lots of the above posts are right...Think it was lighthearted / 'in it together' ....but...feeling incredibly low ATM about my weight...and didn't need anyone to make me feel more shit about it! I already know! 😆

My grandma was obsessed with people being thin/fat/sturdy/healthy looking/ill looking etc and used to pass on her opinions directly with no filter and no fucks given. It was very rude and I once pulled her up on it and she was dismayed. Just tell your mum it's not funny and you don't wish to hear any other judgements on your body size.

I've been called sturdy and pudgey/podgey if its any help...

Nothing wrong with being plump!

I'm pretty sure that Scarlett O'Hara describes her legs as "plump and neat" and she was extremely vain, so intended it as a compliment to herself.

My DM absolutely would do this.

Yes for that generation it's fairly normal, pretty poor awareness that making commenst on people's body shape, appearance, dress etc is unwelcome 🙈

I've actually started telling my lot 'if you have nothing nice to say, don't say anything at all'. Ripping each other apart at family gatherings fairly normal when the elders are present! U50s have changed that thankfully.