Relationship quandary

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Partner and I had a disagreement over child arrangements and difficulty with ex which resulted in him leaving mine and staying elsewhere. When we spoke next day via text he suggested we leave things between us as he was finding it all too stressful. I agreed, told him how much I loved him but that I would leave him be if that's what he wanted. It's been a couple of weeks and neither of us have spoken (at all...).
He hasn't collected any of his belongings from my house, including a vehicle, each others house keys.. . I haven't contacted him because I don't want the relationship to be over, and I don't know what I could say other than what I've already said. I know that he loves me and vice versa, I believe he is overwhelmed and may just need time but I'm scared it's truly over. I'd hoped that maybe with some space and time to think he might reach out. I'm wondering what others think I should do here?

Have you straightened out the ex issue? Finding someone you like is tricky, so ring him and see what’s the story. If it’s over , we’ll face that, if not, is ex problem is sorted, so it doesn’t interfere again? He’s going to have you warts n all though, and learn to cope with problems.. as your partner and not run for the hills..

There's background missing here. Regarding your ex and arrangements, what's going on? What led to the argument? Is this the last straw?

Regarding what you should do, nothing. Wait for him to contact you.

Regarding his ex and kids. I feel she's controlling his every move through kids so finding it difficult to not comment on that. They are navigating divorce and we met post separation. In hindsight, maybe it wasn't wise to begin something yet but with connection and feelings it just transpired naturally. I want him to have the time and space to sort himself, but the circumstsnces are putting so much strain on the relationship and causing arguments and stress. I'm feeling frozen and don't know what to do now, I don't want to lose him.

I've never bashed the mother of his children.

I would separate until he's divorced and then meet up to discuss the relationship. He's obviously under a lot of stress. I would take some time to think about being in a relationship with someone with so much baggage.

Sounds like it’s best to stay separated for now. He rushed into something with you way too quickly and you want someone without the baggage. The ex will always be there.

If you don’t want to lose him you need to accept that you began a relationship with a man who was going through a divorce and who is navigating co parenting. That means you need to make adjustments to the expectations you may have had from a new relationship with a man who didn’t already have a family.

If the relationship is worth it, it will survive a period of separation while one of you finalises the end of their marriage to someone else.

Completely inaccurate and even more unhelpful. Thank you for your contribution but if you don't have anything actually helpful to comment then what's the point, other than a clear attempt to made me a bad one?!

OK, so what form did your commenting about the child arrangements take?

Ultimately though it sounds like he's realised he's just not ready to be dating yet. It's too soon for him, his kids, and it's not fair on you.

I tried to suggest an alternative to try remedy a recurring issue, however he got very defensive and shut it down without conversation. I got upset as I felt very dismissed, and he left.

I just want him and his kids to be ok, I know he needs to navigate that himself. I don't want to be additional pressure for him and another thing to think about. I'm just heartbroken at the thought this might be the end and don't know how to move forward.

OP, I’m going to be honest. Whenever people are this vague, it generally means that they know they’ve been unreasonable.