Hi, I suppose this is a good place as any to talk about a tricky relationship. So I met my 'partner' through a dating app - I have to note that I believe I'm ADHD and I think they are autistic - so we got on really well at the start and had a spark of sexual attraction - however, just before lockdown they went cold and said they didn't find me attractive - somehow we split up and then got back together. We have allot of emotional intimacy but not that much physical. He likes kinda role play stuff and I am very sensual it could work but its effort. Since the comment I no longer feel like I want to have sex. Especially since having a baby who is now 2. Fast forward to now - we had got engaged just before I discovered I was pregnant - and I wanted to push forward and just get married due to losing a few loved ones.
Heres the issue - yesterday we talked and he didn't want to get married, as he wasn't 'in love with me' and to be honest neither am I. But the practical side works and so he wanted to continue the way we were. It doesn't help with married at first sight, if anyone is watching it - we relate more to the couples where the man doesn't find the women attractive and I was like if we were on that show we wouldn't last. I think I wanted to get married for practical purposes really not for love, though its there maybe not in a romantic way.
Its probably like allot of information to share on a public sight but I'm doing it to see if anyone else has a similar relationship - I think I have to make a big decision to leave and just co - parent. I'm middle age now but really can't be bothered for another relationship - I just want to get a decent career and have a healthy co-parenting thing. To be honest I've given up that love exists and maybe my love or romantic dramas and novels has skewed my views. Do other people who know much about neurodiverse relationships relate to this? That's what I'm after really - any happy stories about moving on and it being ok..
PS I want this to stay on the forum and not shared anywhere else.