Is this illegal??

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(This is not about me I have some genuine concerns) I have recently found out that my friends partner has uploaded videos of their intimacy to a swingers group in Twitter.
Backstory.
My friends partner has a massive (snow) addiction and also porn addiction. She catches him many of times on chat websites etc etc.
She has now recently found on his phone a fake twitter account (which she is blocked off) that he is chatting to other girls and couples asking to engage in swaps. He is also uploading videos of him and her when they were having sex etc.
the videos were obviously consensual between themselves however she has found that he has posted them on this page without her knowledge or consent.
I am trying to explain and tell her that this is illegal! That this is some kind of revenge porn etc. she has confronted him and he’s just brushed it off saying he only does it when he is f+**d etc.
I think this is serious!! And can’t understand why she is with him?? Am I right here?? That this is serious and illegal?

Yes. I'd stay out of it though, sounds like she's decided any man is better than no man.

I am mate. I’ve told her what I think. She’s honing up her house and moving in with him and she’s petrified of him not being around her. I’ve given up x

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You need to encourage her to get help. Find out why shes willing to put up with this. Fear of being alone? Staying for children if there are any.

Be a friend, support and listen to her guide her but remember if she's not willing to leave him there's nothing more you can do but walk away knowing you tried your best.

It’s been going on for years and years. She is financially stable and had her own house. Kids aren’t his etc. but she’s give up everything to move into his brothers house who has now moved away. She is scared of being alone. And has let herself go, her confidence is knocked. We have all told her time and time again. She doesn’t even punish him when she finds out anymore if you know what I mean. I would have left a long time ago x

It sounds like she's got very low self esteem and little confidence. I doubt there's much you can do as she's been putting up with his behaviour for a long time and is used to it. These kinds of drama filled relationships can be very addictive.

What he's doing is illegal and she can request for the videos to be removed and erased from Google searches. However, she's in a relationship with a man who ultimately doesn't respect her or care about her.

He has an addictive personality and his coke addiction will get worse and effect his behaviour, if it doesn't already. He'll become arrogant, aggressive and paranoid.

If he's addicted to gambling she'll lose her money and if he's addicted to hook ups then he may endanger her health with STIs. This isn't a healthy environment for her children.

This will not end well for her or her children.Moving in with a coke head is she nuts or perhaps she's on it as well and knowingly moving children into that scenario is tantamount to child abuse.

Is snow a slang term for a certain drug. Why can't she have a relationship but refuse to live with him making it easier to get rid when she sees how bad it is, but she should end it now.

Snow equals cocaine

Here's the Revenge Porn helpline
https://revengepornhelpline.org.uk/

If you pass it onto your friend, they can advise on her situation.

I totally agree, I said that he’s got zero respect for her whatsoever. Why would you want to post your mrs on these sites? I would slap the shit out of my man and then make him homeless.

there’s no talking to her and I can’t do anymore x

I think she does it with him as she’s afraid he will go elsewhere and do it and end up god knows where 🙄.
does it to keep him close

Yes it is. I wanted to be respectful on here and not say the word xxx

hes lived with her but now they are moving to his uncles house which is bigger etc and renting it off them. he never contributed to her bills. And now she is losing her independence. She can’t now live apart from him as she is scared what he would get up to xx

Report his drug use to SS. The children are not safe in this scenario because he is a drug addict, sex pervert and abusive and their mother is not protecting them. Seriously, report it. This man takes intimate videos of people and posts them online without consent. Who knows what he’s capable of. These children need protecting.

She is an amazing mother. And hides her kids from it. He’s not abusive or violent in that way, the kids adore him. But he’s not respecting my friend and this addiction is absolutely disgusting x

Is he going to pay towards the bills and rent, if not he's a cocklodger. You could point this out.

Here are some legitimate resources: https://www.cps.gov.uk/cps/news/illegal-sexual-behaviour-online-including-sharing-and-threatening-share-intimate-images

https://www.citizensadvice.org.uk/scotland/law-and-courts/civil-rights/freedom-of-information-and-privacy/if-your-intimate-photos-or-videos-are-shared-without-your-consent/#:~:text=It's%20a%20crime%20to%20show,their%20partner%20or%20ex%2Dpartner.

This case has some relevance though facts somewhat different: https://www.cps.gov.uk/east-england/news/reality-tv-star-stephen-bear-jailed-posting-revenge-porn

She's not an amazing mother.hiding her kids from it ,no that doesn't cut it she's put them in an extremely vulnerable position and how would she be able to hide it if living with said coke head because that ain't stopping anytime soon.

She’s not an amazing mother. An amazing mother wouldn’t allow her children to be around a cocaine user and sex pervert. He’s an abuser. Abuse doesn’t just mean violence. She can try to shield them all she likes but I can assure you that the kids will be exposed to harm. The way he treats her will shape their perspective of how adult relationships are meant to look. What about when they’re older and sexual content of their mother surfaces? Who knows that he’s capable of. Maybe the children appear to love him because that’s how they are surviving in this dynamic. Children want to please abusers so they themselves don’t become the target for abuse. And they learn this really quickly. Report it to SS and let them decide if the children are at risk. If they are, they will likely work with the mother to get her and the children away from this abusive man. If you don’t report it and anything happens to those children, how will you feel about it? You cannot put amazing mother and drug use, (even if it’s that of a partner) in the same sentence. She’s not protecting them. What if they accidentally found his stash and ate it? What if he got out his face and went ballistic because your friend wouldn’t do some sexual act he wanted her to do? What if he posted the children online just like he’s done with your friend? How do you know he hasn’t already? Grooming is a real thing. Maybe that’s why he seems so close to the children.