Needy boyfriend

[Ickaflick]

My bf was sick the past week. A cold. He and I got into a huge fight bc he thinks I’m not caring enough because I worked from home and didn’t check in on him or offer him tea. If he’d asked I would have done, I’m in the next room. I have a stressful intense job, and I walked the puppy and tidied all the time he was ill.

Am I an asshole? I wouldn’t expect him to check on me every few hours - if I needed something I’d ask.

Also when I’m ill I get no respite because I’m still raising our child and doing house work. Last time I was sick he asked me to get him sweets from the store because he couldn’t be bothered going.

After being long-term single for many years I discovered that one of the top joys of being in a relationship is that you don't have to "crack on" when you're ill. Someone who loves you is there to look after you and do things for you. Even if you can technically do them yourself (just with more effort and discomfort than usual). Even if it's "just a cold". Yes, I'm capable of making myself a cup of Lemsip or even hobbling to the corner shop if we're out. Did that many times when I was single. But it's just so nice to have a partner who'll make your life a bit easier when you're under the weather. DP and I do this for each other automatically and the general MN "crack on, you're on your own" attitude to illnesses baffles me.

As for the OP, obviously neither she nor her boyfriend seem to care about each other when they're ill so I also wonder whether this is the healthiest relationship.