How to get over a breakup

[hurtandconfusedd]

Hello.

My 4 year relationship ended today, I'm gutted. Things have been incredibly bad for the last two weeks but there was a turning point yesterday and I cannot have this man in my life anymore.

He has made me feel completely worthless and question my own sanity on repeat over the last few months. I've ended it today and he's acted completely unbothered which has left me angry and devastated because he was everything to me.

I feel I've hit my low point and I've done what's needed to be done. But... I don't know how to shake the anger and rebuild from here.

What are your best breakup tips? What did you do to start putting you first again?

Hi OP, firstly, really very sorry you’re going through this.

No breakup is easy, but from the information you’ve given, it sounds like this man has zero respect for you. Anyone who makes you feel worthless, is not worth a further second of your time. Life is too short to waste it on someone who doesn’t make you happy.

Lean on your friends and family as much as you can.

Best wishes 💐

Oh man!! I know right now the pain is really bad, but I promise you it will get better. I thought that my life was over and I honestly mean that I actually felt so bad. I just used to go to bed at night and hope that I didn’t wake up in the morning.

Heartbreak hurts so bad that you almost can touch the pain on your chest but let me tell you there is a light at the end of the tunnel and so don’t listen to people who tell you that this feeling will never go away because that’s not true !! Here are three things that helped me the most

1. I opened up to my friends and family and that was hard for me, but I opened up and I told them my truth truth and they allowed me to vent, thank God but if you don’t know anyone like that around you then hire a coach or even a counsellor or go to your doctors but you need someone to talk to or even write it down that makes you feel better writing it down to

1. I went to the gym even though I hate exercising it really helped more than I could ever tell you hated it initially but then I realised how good it made me feel afterwards and it wasn’t about getting muscles or getting skinny. It was simply about my mental health and it really helped.

1. And I started reading which I never normally do either. I literally read so many breakup books but if I’m honest with you the one that really stands out and the one I really feel help me the most was called bossing your breakup and it’s on Amazon and it’s almost a guided journal as well as having so much amazing information and you actually feel like the author cares!! it’s evident that author has gone through heartbreak it themselves I’m not they totally get how you are feeling… that same author also has another book called silence is your superpower which is absolutely amazing, because it shows you how to do no contact properly … because most of us have no clue I think that no contact is just not contacting your ex but it’s not. It’s much more… wot a game changer👌

So again, do the work on yourself and most importantly don’t think that these feelings that you have now are permanent, because they are really not and I hope my tips helped but just keep moving forward and realise that one person cannot dictate your happiness

🤗