Down about a guy showing his true colours

[Cassidyscircus]

Have been dating a guy around 6 months, all going well. He’s not my usual type and not much in common with me, but has always been very gentlemanly and fun company. He would definitely be considered the liberal side of politics.

This morning he tripped over a homeless man and kicked him ‘to wake him up’ on his way to work. He told me by phone shortly after, all in a way that he felt the homeless person was in the wrong and was annoyed to have been inconvenienced. I was completely speechless. Once I gathered myself I told him it was awful and ended things.
I’m so disappointed. I am long enough in the tooth to leave as soon as someone shows me who they are but 🙁 I really do give up.

That's awful, what an ugly man.

JFC he kicked a homeless man?! I don't have the words but I'd have dumped him too.

I'm so sorry, you totally did the right thing. The fact that he actually told you as well makes me think that he thought it was ok and maybe even a funny story or something. Such a pity you had to invest in him for 6 months to find out now but be glad that he told you or you might have had to wait a few more years to find out how awful he is.

I have often been shocked by peoples’ attitudes towards rough sleepers. It’s depressingly common to have this kind of attitude.

It sounds like the guy tripped and kicked the homeless man because he felt embarrassed or he might have even made the bit about kicking him up to somehow save face? But in either case he sounds like he’s bad news.

What a tiny, tiny man.

Thank goodness you’ve found out now what he’s really like

No way back from that, how disappointing indeed.

Well done for having standards and boundaries and ending a relationship when you see a red flag. You've dodged a bullet there.

What an appalling bloke he is

I’m sorry for you. I can’t get my head around this behaviour. Literally can’t identify a human being. Psychopath.

I previously refused to see someone again because of how bloody rude they were to someone serving us when we were out.
I’d have also found his actions towards the homeless person deplorable and done the same as you.

How people treat others, not just you, is a very good way to judge their character.

@Cassidyscircus good for you - for making a hard personal decision on a matter of principle. An alternative course of action would have been to try and educate him on your preferred way of viewing and interacting with people who are homeless: he can still learn can't he? Maybe he never stopped to talk to anyone and hear their story.

Wow, what a cunt.

literally kicking a man when they are down, that's horrible.

I had something similar recently. An acquaintance I get on with and have to keep in touch with, mentioned that she no longer gives to the RNLI because they rescue illegal migrants. But she’d be ok with them rescuing legal ones. I asked how they are supposed to tell the difference at 2:00 am in the middle of a howling gale.

Thank you ❤️ he actually followed up what he said by saying ‘well if I keep kicking them they’ll find somewhere safer to sleep’ and that it’s ‘gross’.
It actually makes me feel sick that I’ve been alone with him.

Genuinely there were NO warning flags at all, I could comprehend it a bit better if he was some kind of old Etonian who hadn’t had much experience with poverty, but his family are very average.

I agree communication is normally the best course of action, but by the time someone is in their forties they are who they are. I would expect a 10 year old to know that kicking another person for any reason (except self defence) is very very bad behaviour.

It’s not op’s job to educate a grown man on how to not be vile. Give yourself a shake