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Am I being overly sensitive ?

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Summerglow2 · 28/09/2024 20:23

So I’ve been telling my partner how much I actually want to work now since my kids are now at school and I just want to be successful really. Whenever I speak to him about job searching to be honest he doesn’t seem too interested lol he just says oh ok go for it and goes on his phone. There’s this course I wanted to do which I won’t be able to afford to be honest in one go as it’s about or near £1350 , so he’s said he’ll pay for it which I was happy about but times been dragging on a bit now and I don’t want to bring it up and ask him if he can pay for the course now as I’m just not a asker I don’t like to take tbh.

I done a bit more searching and looked at a course too do kitchen fitting as it’s more affordable and I’d just love to be able to learn how to fit kitchens and bathrooms etc.. so I got excited about it as I had found the right course to do for that and I’ve showed him and he jokes around and says
“yeah what does your mrs do? Oh my mrs fits kitchens” and laughs and then says
“Oh yeah I’m going to the pub with the lads , oh who you going with ? Ah I’m going with (my name) (his mates names) “

My face just dropped after that to be honest I don’t know why and I just came off of the course application on my phone and then he says I’m only joking you know , go for it do it it’s good money and kept looking at me sort of smirking and I look at him back and say what ? And he just smiles still and says what’s up with you

I’m I being overly sensitive or ? 🤷‍♀️

OP posts:
workplaceshenanigans · 05/10/2024 11:22

He's not very nice to you, is he? A partner is supposed to be supportive and encouraging, not throw cold water on your ideas or take the piss out of them. You are not being overly sensitive in being upset at his dismissive attitude.

You do what you want, and ignore the twat.

Icanttakethisanymore · 05/10/2024 11:25

I think the real issue here is that you don’t feel supported. I would imagine the sexist jokes about kitchen fitting might have been taken more lightheartedly if you didn’t already feel like he wasn’t interested in helping you choose a career. I would organise my thoughts on different options ( write them down, with details of training required, cost of training and salary potential once trained) and then tell him which one you’re doing and ask him to pay. Then get on with making it a great success!

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