I’ve been feeling uneasy lately and could use some advice. My wife has gotten very close to an older woman, and initially, because of the age gap, I thought their relationship was more of a motherly bond. However, over time, I’m starting to feel unsure about what’s happening.
This woman seems to have a strong and controlling influence on my partner, and one thing that bothers me is that she calls my partner constantly, but my wife avoids answering the phone when I’m around. She also sees her most evenings. It makes me feel like something is being hidden, which is tough. Recently, my wife told me she was too tired to see me, but I later found out this older woman was at her place instead, which hurt me. I don’t want to jump to conclusions, but I’m starting to wonder if there’s more to their relationship than I initially thought. I’m also worried that this woman might have romantic feelings for my wife, and I feel left out and unsure about how to handle the situation.
I’ve tried to talk to my wife about it, but my concerns have been brushed aside. I love my partner and don’t want to create more distance, but I struggle with these feelings. Has anyone been through something similar, or can you offer advice on approaching this situation without worsening things? Any advice would be appreciated. The age gap is 20 years or so.