Twin - struggling with no contact

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Hello all,

So this is more of a vent than needing advice but want to know if anyone has been in a similar situation…
I am an identical twin and recently went no contact. I decided to do this and she doesn’t agree - background wise we have always had an intense relationship. When we got on well, it was really great but when we argued it was awful. She has constantly belittled me and unfortunately never seems happy for me when I’ve done well. However, since then I’ve been feeling so empty and sad about it all. It really feels like grief and the thought of not talking to her ever again makes me cry, even though I was the one who decided to go no contact.

Our birthday is 3 weeks away so that could be in the back of my mind but want to stay no contact, just didn’t realise how painful it would be :(

Would be grateful for any words of wisdom :)

Doe your sister know the reason for you blanking her? I think that is important, people who are close often get into the habit of being critical or sarcastic and don't realise how hurtful it is.

I hope you get together but the air has to be cleared and boundaries set first. You must also listen to her, she may have some grievances of which you are unaware.

I have seen another set of twins with this problem. Their relationship survived by living in different hemispheres and having frequent Skype calls. It still wasn’t a fabulous relationship with snide comments and underlying competitiveness but the distance at least brought out some of the genuine connection that came from missing each other.

I am no contact with my father and have been for around five years and honestly I still get upset about it now. I wouldn't wish this on anyone. I'm also a twin and she drives me around the bend but I could never imagine being NC. Given you're already feeling upset, could you rekindle and go low contact instead? Honestly I believe life is too short