Does my husband have an ulterior motive?

[xxAshleighxx]

Does my husband have an ulterior motive?

Basically, he’s recently found out that another couple we know are trying for a baby and going to be buying a bigger house.

We hung around with the couple for a short time a couple of years back, but basically stopped because all they wanted to do is drink. Although we never fell out.

It’s common knowledge that the women has been cheating on her other half for the whole relationship. We live in a small town and everyone pretty much knows everyone else’s business. I’m actually surprised her other half doesn’t know.

My husband says he is going to send the other half an anonymous message, telling him all about this women’s infidelity.

I don’t understand why he would want to do this and what he expects to get out of it?

I know my husband has a bit of a soft spot for her, after him making a few comments about her being attractive in the past.

Do you think this is strange behavior? I don’t know what to think really. It’s got me paranoid into thinking he wants her single. He’s never cheated or shown any such behavior in the past.

Your husband is very sneaky to send an anonymous message to her husband. If he has proof she's having an affair and he wants to 'help' the husband, why not say it to him directly? It's not like they're friends anyway.

Why is he so wound up about it?

The way to do it is to tell her you are going to tell him unless she does. Anonymously is the coward’s way.

Pleanty of women on here do this or threaten to do this and they are praised to the hilt all of a sudden a man threatens to do this and hr us the worst in the world o the double standard of mn why am i not surprised

Pleanty of women on here do this or threaten to do this and they are praised to the hilt

No, they aren't. Anybody stiring things up with anonymous messages is a low life, man or woman.

I think your husband sounds like a bitchy gossip. Why is he only doing this now? Because they’re trying for a baby and buying a bigger house?? He’s either jealous of them settling down or perhaps she’s rejected his advances. Tell him to keep his beak out. You gave no idea what goes on in other people’s relationships.

This may be a stupid question but if genuinely everyone knows, then surely her husband knows? If she’s so careless and blatant that everyone knows, I mean. Or it’s just gossip because it suits everyone to think that way about her. Because most people having affairs are reasonably discrete about it - at least locally to where they live.

Men can't do right for doing wrong. Is there a reason you won't give him the benefit of the doubt?

Women swear blind all day long that they had no idea their husband was cheating, though everyone else knows. Is it possible the husband has no idea himself, hence he's now ready to extend his financial commitment and more importantly, bringing children into this mess?

Maybe this is where your husband's line is.