I honestly feel at the end of my tether and a stressful birthday has been the last straw.
I have a very difficult relationship with my mum, I usually manage to bite my tongue but snapped a few weeks ago because I was tired and she made another snide/critical comment and I’d had enough. We cleared the air, and whilst I didn’t apologise completely I did acknowledge I didn’t handle it well. Fast forward to birthday and I was summoned to fetch my card and present. She has become very reluctant to visit our house as she claims the traffic is too bad (she doesn’t even drive, my dad does and he’s not bothered by said “awful traffic”. It’s made me feel like I’m just an inconvenience to her and she couldn’t even be bothered to visit on or around my birthday.
This tainted my birthday a bit as I felt a bit sad. Then SIL turns up on my birthday just before we left for the school run. Burst into the house, didn’t acknowledge me or wish me happy birthday. DH was like “Erm, are you ok” and she went off on one about how stressed she is and she’s having issues at work blah blah blah. She eventually goes “oh hi,sorry I’m so stressed out. Happy birthday”. WTF? Who behaves like this? It’s not unusual for her, she is a compete drama lama but I’ve had enough now. She really upset me.
I told DH that how she behaved has really upset me, maybe it wouldn’t have bothered me so much if I wasn’t already feeling sad about my mum.
I’ve also got drama with a mum from school as she has taken offence to the fact that as I work full time I often collect DD and rush straight home. She’s taken this personally and messaged to ask if she had done something to upset me. I feel like I’m walking on eggshells now, I sought her out yesterday to let her know we had to rush off. Why am I explaining myself and going out of my way?!
I’m so tired and done with people. I’ve even given serious thought to packing us up and moving as there is nothing here for us and I quite like the idea of being too far way for people to pop in 🤣
Sorry this was so long, I don’t know what to do about any of this