Husband is not English/European/American/Westerner.
His parents they were Political Refugee/Political Asylum, they came here with nothing and started all over empty handed. In his childhood, his dad was the one that stay home (stay at home dad), and his mom was the breadwinner.
His dad was the one that does all housework and raised him (my husband) and his older sister.
I do not know what his dad taught him in his childhood, or perhaps told him to not follow his dad footstep. In my husband adulthood, he does the opposite of his father, he is the one that is 100% breadwinner bring home the money, I'm the housewife (my husband wants the dynamic way, he must be the breadwinner, period).
Let cut to the chase, his dad and his older sister both deceased. His mom right is 81 and paralyze since her stroke and kidney failure. My husband is the one that has been paying for her Private Nursing home and medical care.
In order to have enough money to pay for his mom Private Nursing home and medical care, he has to work 80 hours a week, 12 hours a day.
He also take his mom to Dialysis 4x times a week (the whole Dialysis process is 4-5 hours), so 20 hours more a week of his time.
So that is 100 HOURS a week is his work and his mom.
He wants to take her to Dialysis as he see it as mother and son time as his mom time is limited (end stage kidney failure).
I don't mind all this, I get it, I'm a health wife, while his mom is dying. What I don't like is he throw himself to work 80 hours a week just so he can have enough money to pay for her Nursing home and medical care.
WHEN I have my businessman father inheritance, I want to use the heritance to help pay for his mom Nursing home, so he not have to work 80 hours a week. He so so busy that he only sleep 4 hours a day.
He shut me out completely on the inheritance, reasons the inheritance money is my deceased parents leave for me, and he not want to use a penny of a woman's money.
I'm at my wits end, I think of just go to and pay ahead 1 year of the Nursing home for my mother in-law, and just let my husband be mad. Nursing home don't care who pays as long as they get their money.
This I know my husband will get mad, but I do not know if I have any other choice. What would you do? I'm just so mad, he has me and my inheritance to help him, but he keep shut me out.