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Parter on hookup sites.

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CAS96 · 24/09/2024 21:32

a few years ago I found out my partner was using hook up sites, he said it was for porn purposes and he hadn’t met anyone we tried to make it work then I went on to find him on there a further 2 times every time he convinced me it was purely porn there’s been other strange things since and I really don’t know what to do we have been together 10 years & have children. How do I leave someone I have shared my life with?

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poppyzbrite4 · 24/09/2024 21:34

You're in an open relationship. Either accept you're in an open relationship or cut your losses. If you decide to stay, get checked regularly for STIs.

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CAS96 · 24/09/2024 21:37

He convinces me I’m over reacting and swore on everything he has never physically cheated it’s just cause it’s like ‘porn’ as they have pictures etc on there

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Nobodyreallyknows · 24/09/2024 21:39

Hook up sites. Porn. Why would you want to be with a man who gets his sexual gratification from other women and has no respect for you?

poppyzbrite4 · 24/09/2024 21:41

OP they never admit what they're doing because cheaters are liars. He'll swear blind that he's innocent but he's cheating on you. There plenty of porn on the internet, the internet is awash with porn. He's sleeping around that why he's on hook up sites.

WmFnKdSg1234 · 24/09/2024 21:44

I find it hard to work out your motivation @CAS96 : do you truly feel it's okay for your partner to use hook up sites for "porn purposes " ?

Why would you try and stay with someone who wants to do that?

It's beyond repair unfortunately @CAS96 I think you know that.

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CAS96 · 24/09/2024 21:45

poppyzbrite4 · 24/09/2024 21:41

OP they never admit what they're doing because cheaters are liars. He'll swear blind that he's innocent but he's cheating on you. There plenty of porn on the internet, the internet is awash with porn. He's sleeping around that why he's on hook up sites.

That’s what I think, I have no issue with porn but I hadn’t even heard of the site I was so shocked when I saw it.

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CAS96 · 24/09/2024 21:47

WmFnKdSg1234 · 24/09/2024 21:44

I find it hard to work out your motivation @CAS96 : do you truly feel it's okay for your partner to use hook up sites for "porn purposes " ?

Why would you try and stay with someone who wants to do that?

It's beyond repair unfortunately @CAS96 I think you know that.

I just wanted to speak to people outside of my family and friends and get some harsh reality cause my heads in bits and I don’t want to break my children’s hearts, I don’t understand it we have a brilliant sex life we get on great I just don’t get it and my heads a mess right now.

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Nobodyreallyknows · 24/09/2024 23:42

CAS96 · 24/09/2024 21:45

That’s what I think, I have no issue with porn but I hadn’t even heard of the site I was so shocked when I saw it.

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So you are happy for him to get his sexual gratification from other women so long as it's watching them being exploited and abused in porn but hook up sites are a no no for you?
No wonder he thinks he can manipulate you into thinking hook ups aren't any different.

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