I have been going to an hobby group for a few months. It’s very regular so you do make friends. There is one woman there my age who hasn’t really warmed to me but we are friendly with each other as we are part of the same social group. We have also been on holiday together as part of that group. During that holiday her and another of the women were quite catty to me. This woman thought I said something about her clothes when I didn’t and was off with me the whole break. She is back to normal with me know but I don’t particularly like her for her behaviour but I get along with her for the sake of the others in the group and because I don’t want to give up the hobby.
Anyway a new guy joined a few weeks ago and I kind of fancied him. He seemed to be checking me out as well. I then didn’t see him for a while. My ‘friend’ over drinks one evening said to me and others that she was interested in him and in getting to know him. He is back and on a couple of occasions she has approached him and is chatting. I’m not sure how well it is going.
I’m concerned as I like him and want to get to know him too. But I don’t want to make it obvious I like him in case it causes more drama with this ‘friend’ and the rest of the group.
i was sitting with this guy at the weekend in a group (including my ‘friend’) and he introduced himself to everyone in the group over the course of the conversation but me!
I said a few things which he smiled and laughed at and responded to so I don’t think he dislikes me. Is this because he is shy around me?
we are in our twenties btw. I very rarely fancy anyone so this is an opportunity I don’t want to pass up.
Should I leave this as people might judge me for going after someone a friend also likes? And I don’t want to cause drama with my friend. Or should I try and get to know him as a friend and test the waters? I think I will struggle to speak with him without showing I like him though. Or should I just wait for him to approach if he does like me?
thanks for reading x