Would you be mad and is this reaction petty?

[Longdistanceswimmer1]

My partner keeps taking things to the tip which belong to me or what I have bought, claiming I'm hoarding or claiming he's cleaning the spare room. The spare room.os still full of stuff so no he's not cleaned out the spare room so I've told him I will be taking some of his items to the tip when he's at work.

Are you a hoarder?
Is he?
Why is the spare room full of junk?

I am not a hoarder but I was keeping some good quality baby items for a family member, and the other item was unused as of yet,
It's a bit house and the spare room is not needed plus there's loft space also so not like the room is needed.

So he's taken baby clothes to the tip?
How odd.

Its not full of junk junk stuff like hoovers, ironing board, pram etc.
But there is other stuff which could go the tip but he chose to take brand new/ quality items rather than old wood what is in there.

Why ?

Baby items what my family have bought which were in pristine condition and not cheap.
And a brand new rug which I've not yet used as was waiting for when baby was crawling.

If he's dumping stuff of yours without asking you, then that is wrong

But that's really strange behaviour.
Why on earth is he doing this?
I think you need to ask him, not take loads of his things to the dump. That isn't going to help, is it.

Exactly. It would be completely counter-productive to start some kind of tip wars where you both end up getting rid of stuff you value. You live together. Communicate!

I would be angry and upset about this OP.

It's a total lack of respect for you and your feelings and your belongings.

What gives him the right to do this?

You are supposed to be a partnership and decisions should be made jointly.
He obviously thinks you are not his equal.

He needs to replace them then. Present him with a shopping list with prices so he can clearly see exactly how much money he has wasted.
I would be fucking furious.

He's an arsehole for throwing away your stuff, but why do you have a room full of stuff? Hoovers, plural? Who needs more than one? And bits of wood? How long were you "holding onto" the baby items?

I'll be honest, if you've got enough crap to fill a whole room in your house he might have a point about hoarding. He's dealing with it in a completely dickish way, but equally I wouldn't want to live in a Yellow Storage Box.

I agree with this.
And just because you don't need the spare room for anything, that's not a reason to fill it up with crap.

If my husband started hoarding bits of wood and old hoovers I'd divorce him. Seriously. There's no need for it.

Sorry I meant hoover only one hoover, the baby items could have been put up in the loft which would have been quicker than driving to the tip, and the are rug could have been put out an took the wood the tip instead , that's why I was so mad.
But the wood is still there.
The other things there's no space to store such as the pram what I use every day the hallway is narrow and the ironing board .
I did speak ro him but go no where.

It’s very strange behaviour OP and I’d be massively pissed off. It does seem controlling that he’s making a unilateral decision about your belongings

So only your new stuff and treasured baby items? Sounds like he’s a nasty prick.

Yes only my stuff, the room clear out has now been forgotten there's still old bit of junk in there what could have gone the tip if he was serious about clearing the room out.

It might be worth planning a weekend to sort it together. It’s so wasteful to take stuff that isn’t rubbish to the tip out of spite to each other.