Just been dumped and I feel so shit

[LonelyNessie01]

Was this love bombing?

It wasn't that long of a relationship, about 9 months but very intense really from the get-go. He moved quickly- asked me to be his girlfriend after 2 weeks, I love you after 3, spending a lot of time together, plus some deeper things that I admittedly did shut down- him telling me he wants a baby and marriage etc. but I thought he really did love me and that I'd finally found someone amazing. After a really horrible situation with my ex-husband, and 4 years being single- I was so happy to have found someone. And now I just feel like a total fool.

I've had a really busy and difficult past 2 weeks where I couldn't give him as much of my time as usual (eldest off to university, work been crazy busy and dealing with some personal stuff that he knew about too), but I always kept up the communication and I tried to make time for him- he cancelled on me twice. And now he says he's just lost interest. And it feels so rubbish.

Anyone been through anything similar and can offer advice on how to get over this quickly? I just feel so embarrassed that I've been left once again, and I'm so scared I'll be alone forever.

It sounds like you had a lucky escape, OP. He sounds incredibly immature - telling you he loved you after 3 weeks; telling you he wants a baby and marriage after a few months together etc. Do you mind me asking how old he is? It sounds to me like he wanted a fast paced relationship that quickly resulted in marriage and a baby and you wanted to proceed at a much slower pace and get to know him properly first (as most of us do when we meet someone). It doesn’t sound like he was right for you. I’m sure you will meet someone new in time who you are more suited to. 🌺

Deffo love bombing
I got ghosted after 15 months by one like this
Had to work with him too
Almost killed me
You've dodged a bullet

Your eldest is off to uni and this bloke wanted a baby with you? What about you? Did you want another baby when you've been a parent for at least 18 years already? TBH, I think you've dodged a bullet. Someone who falls in love so quickly, love bombs you and then loses interest in the space of two weeks - jeez! He sounds deranged!

I have been through similar and thinking back, it was ridiculous saying we loved each other so quickly and I should of known better than to think he did, but like you I had come out of marriage and just craved someone to love me.

I don't know how you get through it quickly but since I split with mine, I've now been single for a few years and I'm not interested in meeting anyone else for now.
Just don't do what I did and still kept seeing him when he popped up from time to time, clean start and eventually you will get over it.

Say see ya later ✌🏼
He is acting like a spoiled child.