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Charstar1234 · 23/09/2024 17:05

Hi no judgments please
my boyfriend cheated on me while I was pregnant with my one of my best friends, 5 years ago
he agreed to block her and never come into contact again to make our relationship work for the sake of our child. However when I was on his phone her fb page came up he’s literally unblocked her??
what does that even mean why’s he doing this?

OP posts:
category12 · 23/09/2024 17:12

It means that he's not sticking to your agreements, either because he thinks you're too invested to break up with him, or he doesn't care if you do.

He's showing you that he doesn't keep his promises and doesn't respect your agreements and isn't committed to making it work.

So what next?

category12 · 23/09/2024 17:15

If it's quite recently that he's unblocked her, he probably thinks he can convince you it's all water under the bridge and you're being silly and controlling to want him to stick to it.

TwistedWonder · 23/09/2024 17:24

It means he’s a liar who can’t keep his word and I very much doubt he’s only just got back in contact with her.

Aquamarine1029 · 23/09/2024 17:26

How many times does he need to fuck you over until you say enough?

Nobodyreallyknows · 23/09/2024 17:41

It means OP that he is still interested her at the very least. Whether he has rekindled their relationship, or whether it possibly never stopped, is something you don't know ATM.
He has certainly broken the condition necessary for your relationship to work after his betrayal.
He has proven he is not to be trusted.
Horrible for you OP.

Charstar1234 · 23/09/2024 18:00

Thanks

OP posts:
Summerhillsquare · 23/09/2024 18:03

Well of course, if there are no consequences a selfish person will continue to do what they like.

MsDogLady · 23/09/2024 23:01

What does this mean and why is he doing this?

For the same self-serving reasons that enabled him to treat you and his baby like shit on his shoe during your pregnancy —-> he has low integrity and empathy, feels entitled to trash your boundaries and agreements, and gets a thrill from illicit gratification.

His cheating with your good friend was a neon sign flashing his moral bankruptcy. Now he is sniffing around her again, and it’s likely not the first time.

@Charstar1234, you’d be beyond foolish to stick with this sneaky lying cheat who will never change..

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